"There is only one happiness in the world, to love and to be loved".
For many centuries, philosophers and mystics have believed that we only fall in love with three people in our lifetime, each for a specific purpose. First, the love that makes us act stupidly, next, the love that breaks us, and lastly, the love that is unconditional.
People have wondered how true this could be. But let us try to find out how true this could be in this article.
Are you already counting the number of people you may have loved already? Could they be less than three or more? Let's go on to find out more...
This post should be able to convince you that there may be some truth in the statement that you only fall in love with three people in your lifetime.
Judging from your own experiences, if you have some, you may find that this is 99.9% true. And if you attempt to count again, your parameters for love may have slightly changed. You will soon understand what I mean.
The sequelae of these love experiences help to shapen your life as an emotional individual and your perception about love. Indeed, love is one very powerful force in the universe.
Falling In Love The First Time - The Love That Feels RightThis usually hapens when we are quite young, probably in high school or some time around that period. It’s the idealistic love, the love that seems like the fairy tales we read and watch as children. This is the love that appeals to what we should be doing for society’s sake and probably our families.
In this love, we have high expectations about the relationship and strongly believes it is going to end up in marriage and live together happily ever after. We try to do everything possible to make it work even if it doesn't totally feel right, to the extent of letting our deeply entrenched principles loose.
You get the impression that this is how 'true love' is supposed to be. That is why it is referred to as the love that feels right.
Falling In Love The Second Time - The Hard LoveI remember falling in love with a young beautiful lady in her early twenties, only to have unresolvable issues a few months down the line.
This love feels like you've met your true love. That's why the outcome seems to hurt a lot.
When compared to the first love, this is more complicated and difficult. It teaches us lessons about who we are and how we often want to be loved.
This love forces us to understand who we are as individuals, who our partners are and where we want to go in life. When it breaks, we think that our mistakes caused it and you try to right the supposed wrongs, doing something different to bring back the love of your life. This ends up in the same cycles.
We think we are making better choices than our first, but in reality, we are making choices out of the need to learn some lessons.
You experience manipulations, lies, deceit and hurt each time you try to bring back the union with your lover. Series of breakups, makeups and breakups usually follow until you finally give up on the relationship, ending with a free heart that has recovered from a series of heartbreaking experiences.
However, this relationship makes you stronger and at the end, you better understand the kind of the person who deserves your heart.
I remember a senior friend who told me how he wished to reunite with his long lost girlfriend. And another friends of mine made the same statement.
It just tallied with what I wanted to do with the girl I once loved - reunite. But actually, this love has fulfilled its purpose.
Falling In Love The Third Time - The Love That LastsAfter the hard experience of the second love, you may have vowed never to love again, or at least, not so easily. But just soon after that, someone comes into your life. You never saw it coming.
This is the love that comes too easy to be true. The connection cannot be explained and you just fit with your new lover.
This time, you do not expect a fairy-tale love because you have experienced love to great depths and have emotionally, mentally and even physically suffered from it.
Initially, when you first met this person, you may not want to accept them for a relationship because there is something about them that you may not want.
This love will be totally unplanned and arrive suddenly out of the blue. This love may not be dramatic and romantic as the previous affairs but it will provide far better peace of mind.
The connection you seamlessly create and the feeling of mutual love felt by both partners make the bond stronger.
You no longer have to hide your flaws and imperfections as they will accept you for who we are. Though you never imagined that you would end up with them person, you are much happier from the inside.
This experience breaks your preconceived notions about love and shows you that true love doesn’t have to be how you thought it to be.
This love that keeps knocking on your door regardless of how long it takes us to answer.
But then he/she walks in and my heart felt something, and thereafter, the entire night was sleepless because of him/her. After finding ways to interact with them, you discover certain things that were not in your criteria for choosing a partner, but then, the connection is just getting stronger.
It Often Starts With The Wrong PersonIts batter to have the good new last and it's not uncommon to find people meet the wrong person first. You actually thought they were the right person for you. Trying to please them into remaining with them many times over. This is probably your "second love".
All these experiences, however, are there to prepare you for the one that truly deserves you. The end of this relationship is the common cause of intense heartbreak that most young people have.
Loved More Than Three Times, Or Less?After counting the number of people you have loved, you may have arrived at a number greater than three or less. But this belief emphasizes that you may have actually loved only three people if you looked closer.
On the contrary, it could also mean that the three people represented in this post could actually represent three love phases in your life and not necessarily three distinct people in your life.
Conclusively, love is a beautiful thing the creator made. So when you think about giving up on love, probably because you just had your "second love experience", I'm not sure what to say to you but I hope you find peace at last.