For many centuries, philosophers and mystics have believed that we only fall in love with three people in our lifetime, each for a specific purpose. First, the love that makes us act stupidly, next, the love that breaks us, and lastly, the love that is unconditional.
But people have wondered how true this could be. Let's try to find out how true this is together in this article.
I guess you are probably counting the number of people you may have loved already. More than three yet? Let's go!
After this post, you will see that this may just be up to 99.9% true judging from your own experiences and then, you may just decide to do your count again. The sequelae of these experiences help in shaping your life as an emotional individual and your perception about love. Indeed, love is one powerful force of the universe.
Falling In Love The First Time - The Love That Feels RightThis usually happens when we are very young, probably in high school or sometime around then. It’s the idealistic love, the love that seems like the fairy tales we read and watch as children. This is the love that appeals to what we should be doing for society’s sake and probably our families.
In this love, we have high expectations about the relationship and strongly believes it is going to end up in marriage and live together happily ever after. We try to do everything possible to make it work even if it doesn't totally feel right even to the extent of letting go of our deeply entrenched principles.
It gives you the impression that this is how 'true love' is supposed to be. This is the love that feels right.
That sounds familiar, right? I guess it does. Let's now go on to the second time you actually fell in love.
Falling In Love The Second Time - The Hard LoveI remember falling in love with a young beautiful lady in her early twenties, only to have unresolvable issues a few months down the line. This love also feels like you've met your true love. That's why the outcome seems to hurt a lot. When compared to the previous one, this one is more complicated and rather difficult. It teaches us lessons about who we are and how we often want or need to be loved.
This love forces us to understand who we are as individuals, who our partners are and where we want to go in life. When it breaks, we think that our mistake caused it and we strive to right the supposed wrongs and do something different to bring back the love of our life. But this ends up in the same cycles. We think we are making different choices than our first, but in reality, we are still making choices out of the need to learn lessons.
You experience manipulations, lies, deceit and/or hurt each time we try to bring back the union with your partner. As a result, breakups and makeups and breakups may follow until we finally give up on the relationship, ending with a free heart that has recovered from a series of heartbreaking experiences. But this relationship makes us stronger and at the end, we better understand the kind of the person who deserves our trust and heart.
But then you are wiser on your choice of who to give your heart to.
I just remember a senior friend tell me how he wished to reunite with his long lost girlfriend. And also another of my friends who made the same statement. It just tallied with what I wanted to do with the girl I once loved - reunite. But the truth is that has fulfilled its purpose already.
Falling In Love The Third Time - The Love That LastsJust before now, you may have vowed never to love again, or at least, not that easily. And just thereafter, someone comes into your life. We never saw it coming. It is the love that comes so easy that it doesn’t seem possible. The connection can’t be explained and we just fit with our new partner.
This time, we do not expect a fairy-tale love because we have experienced love to great depths and have emotionally, mentally and even physically suffered from it.
Initially, when we meet this person, we 'may' not want to accept them for a relationship because their personality or something about them did not totally match with ours.
This love will be totally unplanned and arrive suddenly out of the blue. This love may not be dramatic and romantic as the previous affairs but it will provide far better peace of mind. The connection we seamlessly create and the feeling of mutual love felt by both partners make the bond stronger.
We no longer have to hide our flaws and imperfections as they will accept us for who we are. Though we never imagined we will end up with a person like this, we will be much happier from the inside. It breaks our preconceived notions about love and shows us that love doesn’t have to be how we thought it to be for it to be true. This is the love that keeps knocking on our door regardless of how long it takes us to answer.
But then he/she walks in and my heart felt something, and thereafter, the entire night was sleepless because of him/her. After finding ways to interact with them, you just discover certain things that were not in your criteria for choosing a partner, but then, the connection is just getting stronger.
Meeting The Wrong Person FirstIt is not uncommon to find people meet the wrong person first. They actually thought he/she was the right. They often try to please them into staying many times over. This is the second time you fell in love. But all the experiences are there to prepare you for the one that you deserve and truly deserves you.
The end of this relationship is the common cause of intense heartbreak that most young people have. They quickly pass over it and the best is yet to come.
Loved More Than Three Or Less?Sometimes you may arrive at a value of greater than three or fewer people that you've loved. But according to this belief, you may not actually have loved them all save the three that matters.
On the other hand, it could mean that the three people represented in this write-up may actually represent three love phases in your life.