Hey! I want to ask again, how long does it take to get over a breakup? But, hold on a bit. Let me assume you don't know the answer, at least, not yet. But by the end of this post, I have specially curated an answer to that question and a few other questions that you didn't get the opportunity to ask.
I've experienced several breakups in my life too and one thing I can be certain about is that no two breakup experiences are exactly the same. Some feel more painful than the other(s). However, the experience of a breakup is one that can be very difficult to deal with without help from external sources. Little words of encouragement from friends have helped me successfully go through the heartbreak phases of some breakups I have experienced.
But wait again! How long does it take to get over a breakup? And how did I get over a breakup in one week?
How Long Does It Take To Get Over a Breakup?
However, there is no single date or a fixed number of days or weeks or months after which everyone is supposed to have gotten over a breakup. There are different factors that determine how long it would take for every individual to get over their breakup and move on. What are these factors?
Factors That Determine How Long It Takes To Move On
- A toxic breakup, with no closure
- How opened up you were
- Being new to dating and breakups
- Ignorance of what to do to heal faster
- Feeling that your ex loved you
- The response of your ex after the breakup
Toxic Breakup, With No Closure
How Opened Up You Were
Being New to Dating and Breakups
Ignorance of What To Do To Heal Faster
Feeling That Your Ex Loved You
The Response of Your Ex After the Breakup
- You call your toxic ex and they ignore you, feels bad, right?
- You call them on video and you see them happy a week after the breakup, with another hot chick/dude, like seriously?
Other Important Questions About Breakup
Question 1: Why does it take time to heal?
Answer: It takes time to heal a broken heart because it takes time to build as well. Memories do not just erase off from your brain like it does from your computer hard disk. Both good and bad memories from the way we perceive the world around us. And even after a breakup, not only do you still remember the bad memories, you remember the good ones as well. And to wake up to see that the person you once loved, gave your whole life to, is no more in your life is a reality you wish never happened. It has happened, but time will heal.
Question 2: How can I prevent breakup and the feeling of heartbreak?
To prevent heartbreak, don't go into a relationship. To prevent the feeling of heartbreak, don't love at all or get close to anybody ever. Relationships are risky ventures, not only is your money and time at risk, but your heart and dreams are also at risk. Anyway, I can't advise you to avoid those risks. Life itself is about risk-taking.
Question 3: How can you heal faster?
To heal faster after a heartbreak, you need a combination of things. But it all begins with engaging in activities that will keep your mind off the breakup. There are many such activities that keep your mind and body away from the memories of your ex. Take care of yourself, focus on your career, mix up with other friends, go see a movie with a friend, remove things that remind you of your ex, and so much more. These can help you heal faster.
Question 4: Does my ex feel the same?
No matter who initiated the breakup, both ex-partners feel how much they miss the other person for as long as it takes them, individually, to fully heal. Chances are your ex remembers you sometimes and misses you. Those crazy actions you put up, the fights you fought suddenly become points of interesting memories. They just wish things went differently but it's too late now.
Question 5: Why does heartbreak hurt so much?
It hurts so much because when you love, you share a part of yourself with your partner. When your ex left, he or she left with that part of you. It's like cutting a part of your flesh with a sharp knife, do you expect it to be painless? When you open up yourself to love deeply, you become more vulnerable. If the commitment resonates from both partners, all will be well but if for any reason, a breakup occurs, the pain can be enormous. However, don't fret. It can be overcome.
Question 6(Bonus): How do I get over a breakup in less than a week?
- Remind yourself you deserve better: Remind yourself you deserve better because you actually do. Someone who truly loves you would not give up on you the way your ex did. No relationship is perfect and one that cannot survive your imperfections is not fit to survive any further.
- Reflect on the qualities(physical or emotional) you desired in a partner: This is very helpful as it can make you take your mind off your ex easily. It's true you loved them, but when you reflect on the qualities your ex had compared to what you really desired, you will realize he/she didn't possess them all. Sometimes even, they may not even match-up to half of your desirable qualities but you compromised just to be with them. When you think this way, it takes your mind on a search for someone better suited for you. This truly works like charm.
- Focus on work and career: Activity makes even the loneliest soul happy. Engaging in helpful activity related to work and career has enormous benefits as far as getting over a breakup is concerned. Work-related activities engage your mind and temporarily takes your mind off the emotions and feelings of a breakup.
- Mingle with other friends, including opposite sex: This also creates a feeling of activity. Interactions with friends and other people, especially of the opposite sex help you to fill the void left by your ex when they left your life.
- Remove romantic things that remind you of them: Romantic objects or items that remind you of them, like pictures, flowers, etc, should be removed from your immediate constant vicinity. Most people even advocate that social media contacts be blocked and deleted. However, unfriending or blocking your ex on social media may not be necessary.
The fact that it takes a while before you heal from a heartbreak could also have some benefits. Can we see some of the benefits in this last section?
Advantages of The Long Healing Time For Heartbreak
With a prolonged period of healing, it only means the pain will only last longer. Within this period when you have not emotionally moved on, it will be practically futile to go on date again too soon. However, could there be an advantage to this long waiting period before the next relationship? Let's look at some advantages.
- It gives you enough time to heal fully
- It gives you time to learn
- It gives you time to know better who deserves you