Being single is one of the most liberating feelings in the world. You can do whatever you want without worrying about what your partner thinks because, of course, you do not have any partner yet. You make your own choices and decisions without involving anyone or bothering about any serious impact on others. Your time of being single affords you the opportunity to understand yourself better, develop your potentials and achieve your dreams without any interference from anybody else. However, there is a downside to it.
When you are single, there are times when you will feel lonely, frustrated, and unattached. This is a common feeling to many, if not all single people. You may yearn for a partner physically and emotionally, but you realize it may not be safe to use shortcuts or make hasty decisions. But don't worry too much. So many people have gone through this phase and you can do it too.
The pressures you may experience being single may require some strategic and practical tips to cope with them, and live a happy life until you find a deserving partner. So, how can you cope with the pressures of being single while you wait until you find the right person for you? Here are a few practical tips you can follow to cope up with being single;
- Set goals
- Meet new people
- Find ways to deal with physical desire
- Do not compare with others
- Get productive
There are times when I have looked at my life as a single person and I realize that being single is a better option. This is a crucial stage for your career and/or business and you may need to concentrate more on your financial goals and build a good foundation for a stable and happy life.
Setting goals is a very important way to cope with being single. You can set goals related to your hobbies, family, health, or other things you want to achieve. When you set goals, you give yourself targets that will keep you busy, help you to better understand yourself, and push you to achieve these targets.
Meet new people
Being single is not going to be the last phase of your life. If you desire to find a partner someday or get married, it means you are going to have to leave the stage of being single.
Meeting new and interesting people is one great way you can get to know the world better. Moreover, it gives you a chance to know other people and finding out how to know who is right or wrong for you. Amazingly, recent technological advancements have made meeting people easier than ever before. There are many dating apps available now, that can help you meet new people and explore relationships. And if you are still not sure if you are ready to meet new people in person, you can easily fix an online video date. Apart from just learning about how to identify who is right or wrong for you, many of these platforms are potential avenues to find true love interests.
Find ways to deal with physical desire
When the weather is cold, or you had a disappointing day, you may want to have someone you can lean on. And very often, sexual tensions may build up and you may want to satisfy them. These physical desires are often some of the most daunting aspects of being single because they can affect your well-being.
Fortunately, there are ways to handle them without indulging in sexually risky and unsafe encounters. There is a world of adult sex toys to help you deal with the weak moments and quench your sexual desires at those moments. The advantage of these is that they can help you find your pleasure areas without the risk of contracting a sexually transmitted disease (STD) from a random partner.
Give importance to other relationships
Romantic relationships only form a part of your entire life. There are other relationships in your life you should also pay attention to at this stage of your life. These include important people like your immediate or extended family, friends, colleagues at work, and so on. It is an obvious fact that most romantic relationships or marriage, especially, competes strongly with other important relationships in one's life. So, you should invest your time in them now that you can still do so without so much interference.
Try to strengthen those relationships, communicate with them, have fun and make every time you spend with them count. This can temporarily make up for the lack of a romantic relationship. Also, learning to handle these relationships properly can also help you handle your relationship with your would-be partner in the near future.
Building relationships is not so difficult. You can join and participate in online social media groups, sports clubs, or volunteer for some causes. This way, you also get a chance of meeting new people and hopefully someday, find the right one for you.
Do not compare with others
It is normal to sometimes look at other people who you think are leading better lives and try to compare your life with theirs. You end up making yourself feel more miserable when you do so. Do not ever compare your life with others who are seeming in happy relationships in a way that makes you feel worthless about yourself. Their success in relationships does not mean you too cannot. It's all about timing. You should wait for the perfect person with the confidence that someday, fate will bring them your way.
Also remember, not all that glitters is gold. Not everything that looks perfect may be good enough for you. So, you should take your time to invest in yourself and focus on your happiness and goals. These are what will make you happy, comparing yourself with others will only make you depressed.
One of the best tips to cope with being single is by becoming productive with your life. Are there things you are passionate about? Look out for them within you and purse them. How can you improve your life, your earnings, and your value? Is there a life skill or soft skill you want to develop, or an instructive book you should read?
In any case, being productive not only keeps you distracted from the worries of being single, but it also ensures that you make the most of your productive life, instead of worrying about something you do not have total control over.
If there is the best version of you, that was ever made, that is you. You are the best of your kind and you deserve a perfect partner who loves and understands you. It may only take some time, but he or she is out there. While you cope with these times of being single, you must understand that they will soon come to an end. Don't stop dreaming of that perfect partner for you. There are countless single people out there who may share your interests, compatibility and values. So, dream on!