How to Sustain Your Relationship Without Spending Money

Sustaining and improving your relationship is not all about money. Here are ways to sustain and improve your relationship when you don't have money to spend.

How to sustain and improve your relationship without spending money.

Relationships are expensive. I bet no one can argue that but what if I tell you showing love is not as expensive as you probably thought?

Money is required in every relationship. Many times, you need to spend money to show your partner how much you love them and are willing to sacrifice for them. Spending money on your partner can build affection and improve your relationship but sometimes it is not compulsory in sustaining your relationship, particularly when you don’t have enough money.

Many guys do not feel comfortable when their woman asks them for money but they don’t have to give her. This way, you have to find ways to assure her that you would do as she asked in no time while making efforts to get money to meet her needs.

Contrary to what many people believe, you don’t need to have large amounts of money to sustain a good relationship. Some of the strongest relationships started their blooming journey without money, and no matter what your financial status is at the moment, you can grow your relationship without spending so much money.

Basic Requirements for Every Relationship

For every relationship to blossom and grow healthily, it needs a regular supply of the following requirements:

  1. Love and commitment: This is not just about the feelings, because they are fleeting. Love is about the commitment to your partner.
  2. Effective communication: Also not about talking every day. It’s about seeking to understand each other irrespective of how far apart you are.
  3. Understanding: Understanding is about being empathic; putting yourself in the shoes of your partner to see things from their perspectives and understand them better.
  4. Patience: Things do not always go as planned or desired. Understanding that you need to be patient with your partner is one essential ingredient that can sustain any relationship.
  5. Financial responsibility: Money is also important in every relationship. Either partners have financial needs that should be met. Conventionally, the female partner is the one to be satisfied financially by the male partner but this is actually not restricted to the female partners as male partners also have needs that can be met financially.

The list is expansive but permit me to stop at these five. But you might be wondering why women and girls usually prioritize money in their decision to choose a mate, aren’t you?

Evolutionary Explanation of Why Women Prioritize Money in Relationships

Women are not the only ones who need their partner to provide them with money in a relationship but they are the ones who need that the most. Gestures like buying your man a surprise present, or supporting him financially in a growing business, also require the woman to have some money too.

Women’s preference for men who have some financial stability for a relationship may not be only out of greed. There are evolutionary reasons why that is so.

Because men are evolutionary the breadwinners in the family, women naturally look for a mate who can provide for their needs and those of their children in the future. The only problem is that many women do not also look out for the more important things like accountability, responsibility, ambition, hardworking, etc, but only run after the already-made highest bidder.

Ways to Sustain Your Relationship Without Spending Money

I have heard many people argue that love is money and vice-versa. That is, when there is no money, there is no love. But how true?

Research has shown that money has a strong influence on the stability of romantic relationships. This suggests that the quality of relationships could deteriorate drastically when there is no money. However, money is not the most important ingredient for any relationship’s stability.[1]When Love Meets Money: Priming the Possession of Money Influences Mating Strategies – PMC

In this section, you will see some things you can do to improve your relationship and keep it stable which does not require so much money from you.

1. Being present and attentive

It is true that some of life’s best things are free. Being present and attentive to your partner is something that is worth more than money. Whenever you are together, give them 100% of your time and pay special attention to their specific needs.

Everyone wants a partner who is deeply interested in them and one who is open to giving them some of their time. You might sometimes be carried away by random thoughts about work, your projects, specific tasks you need to attend to, and so on, but whenever you are with your partner, try to pause all those thoughts and be mentally present with your partner.

2. Being peaceful

Peace is another commodity that cannot be bought by money. Peace of mind is the best thing you can ever have as a human, so much so, that many people have concurred that is better to have peace of mind with someone that doesn’t have so much money than with someone who has all the money in the world but makes your life go through hell every single day.

Thankfully, being peaceful is not something that falls from the sky. You can learn to be peaceful with your partner, and by extension, everyone else. This begins with learning kindness, tolerance, empathy, and understanding how to control the amount and type of emotions that flow into your words.

By being peaceful, many men and women would prefer to be with you than if you are not. Your partner will find happiness being with you even if you are nowhere near being the richest man in your city.

3. Generosity

Generosity is what conveys your intent to your partner. How do you act when you have money to spend?

When you don’t have enough money, it will be more difficult to spend money on your partner. But if you are genuinely interested in giving your partner a good life, he/she won’t need to ask you first before you spend money on them.

Generosity goes beyond spending money. It also about giving non-monetary things to your partner. This is best measured by how freely you allow them to use what personally belongs to you.

4. Treat him/her as special

There are billions of other people in the world out there but none of them is as special as the person you are currently with. Treating your partner as special not only helps build, sustain, and improve your relationship but also makes you feel special too.

Show your partner that you prioritize him/her over other people and things, buy them special items, and pick a beautiful flower for them on your way back home. As much as you can, treat your partner as special and you would get the most blissful and stable relationship ever even without spending so much money.

5. Leverage free outdoor leisure

Not every place requires you to pay heavily to have fun. There are free or not-so-expensive parks you can visit with your lover. Share some night-outs and let those memories always remain with you.

Clubs and recreational centers in the United States may be expensive but you can easily take a free walk with your partner at the Miami Beach Botanical Garden if you are in Florida, or the 7 Gulf Shores if you are in Alabama.

There are also free bars you can walk into with your partner. You could grab some drinks if you have some extra money to spare, otherwise, enjoy the bustling ambiance with them by your side.

These gestures may seem small but they can help rekindle your love and passion for each other in the relationship.

6. Bring the fun home

Let’s assume you could not find any free bar or relaxation center, or both of you have not found a perfect time to go out together, you can spice up your relationship by bringing the fun home.

Set out a Friday night to see a trending movie you both love together in your living room. Nobody says you can’t watch the trending “Barbie” movie alone together.

Think of other creative ways to bring the fun home and if you are stuck, ask your partner how they would like their next date night to look like.

7. Spend on him/her when you have

I definitely needed to emphasize this in the end. Learning to improve your relationship or sustain it without spending money is not special training on how to be miserly and irresponsible. You should continually put in the work to make enough money to allow you to spend more on your partner.

Having an understanding partner doesn’t also mean you don’t have to spend money on them. It only means you have an opportunity to invest your wealth into productive things in the short term so that you can have much more money in the long term to spend with your partner.

How to Improve Your Relationship Without Spending Money

This is basically the same thing as sustaining your relationship without spending money. In improving your relationship without spending money, you are basically interested in stepping up and spicing things up every now and then.

That can be accomplished by improving on the tips discussed above, coming up with more creative ideas to make your partner feel happier, and staying open to learning new things as you grow together in the relationship.

How to know someone who won’t ever get satisfied without you spending

“Gold-digger” is the right term to describe this kind of person. Some people are only interested in what they would benefit in a relationship and never interested in what they would contribute.

Beauty and sex are not all a woman should contribute to a relationship. Does she want to add more value to you both financially and otherwise?

Sex and money are not the only things a man should contribute to a relationship. Does he add value to you in terms of personal development and financial empowerment?

It is easy to know a gold digger. Many of them do not even hide it from you. The most important sign of a gold-digger is that they only care about what you have to offer them, and never have anything to contribute to you.

Is it right if a girl never asks a man for money?

Guys quickly run from a lady who constantly asks for financial favors and money without ever coming up with something to do for the guy in return. Again, it doesn’t have to be sex.

But what if a girl never asks the guy for money, is it right?

Being understanding and considerate in a relationship does not mean the girl should never ask for money when she needs it. The essence of the relationship is to help each other out in areas of their specific needs, including money.

Some girls would prefer not to ever ask a man for money, as they want to be independent. That is a good thing for most guys and it shows that she is committed to making the relationship work out. But that does not mean she should never ask him for money when she doesn’t have it. Rather, the girl should be understanding and considerate of her requests for money.

Final words

Money is important for every relationship. Hence, women look out to men who are financially capable, or potentially so, to take care of them and their children in the future. However, money is not the most important ingredient of stable relationships.

Little gestures with an intent of love and commitment can go a long way to sustain and improve the quality of your relationship with your partner. Some of these gestures were discussed in this post.

Finding ways to sustain and improve your relationship without spending money does not mean you would never get to spend money again. It only opens you up to things you can do when you don’t have enough money to afford bigger surprises for your partner.

Always keep working towards making enough money for yourself, your partner, and your children in the future, and be quick to identify people who would not add any value to your life as well.

The last thing I would add is that people value people who stick with them through thick or thin, and if you are that person, they would cherish you for the rest of their lives.

I am a medical doctor, a seasoned writer and passionate blogger. Thanks to many years of trials, failure, and near successes. I am the founder of Knowseeker and our content are geared towards enlightening and making you a better and happier audience.

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