In an earlier post, I wrote about 30 signs that a girl likes you but is trying not to show it. Here, you will see 7 important signs that a girl does not like you and there is nothing you can do to change her mind. But before we begin with that, there are some important questions we need to ask ourselves, whether you are a guy or a lady – “Should a guy kill himself for a lady to get her attention?”, “at what point should a guy stop chasing a girl that is being too hard to get?”, and lastly, “what are the signs that a girl is not interested and it will never work?”.
Naturally, girls like to put up the disguise to get more attention from a guy, and to reassure themselves that they are valuable, or what you would call ‘the prize’. This is why a girl would consider it very abnormal for her to accept you too quickly, or make it ‘too easy’ for you even when she is interested in a relationship with you. However, she would give you the signs that would indicate her interest in you.
On the other hand, if a girl is not interested in you from the start, she would give some important signs you should look out for, as you will see shortly in this post.
Another thing every guy should know is when to stop chasing a girl. It is normal to chase a woman you are interested in. You definitely have to prove to her that you are determined to be with her and not just trying like most other guys. However, you need to know when to stop. There are some signs a girl would put up that will make you know that she is never going to be interested in you forever, except for some gains or benefits only.
Now, let us see 7 clear signs that a girl does not like you and will never will.
1. She gives you a wrong number
Fasttrack to the beginning when you first met her, you probably started a conversation with her and got to know a little information about her. When it was time to go your separate ways, you decided you might need her number. It could also be that you just bumped into her and decided to get her number to talk later because you were probably in a hurry at the time.
Either way, when a girl gives you the wrong number or a number that is inaccessible to you, she is definitely not interested in anything with you. Anyway, you shouldn’t have to worry too much as you might not be able to reach her again. But even if she lives close to you, don’t be tempted to stalk her or try to get closer to her. She is not interested in you. If you keep pushing, it will make her hate you the more, but if you leave her alone, she might just reconsider being with you. But who cares?
2. She ignores your calls
There is no better signal that a girl is not interested in you than her ignoring your calls. Maybe you succeeded in getting her correct phone number, skype, or social media handle, but when you reach out to her, she ignores you totally. Okay, you had called up two times without her answering, right? Normally, if she was busy, she would return your calls when she is less busy or more available for a phone call. But a girl that is not interested in you will not give a damn whether she misses a hundred calls from you.
3. She bills you from the very first day
I wouldn’t disagree with you if you say girls are needy, everyone is. Others may say girls are parasites, and all they know is to ask for money but that is not true for all women. When a girl likes you, she would not ask you to spend money on her on the first day. She is more interested in building a relationship with you, and not being like most other girls to scare you away.
I’ve had several experiences of girls asking me to buy one thing or another for her when we just barely started talking. When that happens, you should instantly know that she is getting close to you because of what she wants from you. It could be your money or some other things you possess.
It doesn’t mean that it is wrong for a girl to expect to get money and other things from you when she gets married to you. That is absolutely right, as a matter of fact, you expect some things from her in return. The only difference that spots a girl that is not interested in you is that she puts what she wants to achieve from you above her relationship with you. Such girls would always want you to keep them but not make any effort to keep you. Stay away!
4. She avoids your company
This is the honest girl who doesn’t want to bite what they cannot chew. It is a great thing that she is avoiding you because it shows that she does not want anything to do with you. This could be because of your looks, your social status, and the type of friends she wants in her circle (maybe the big boys and girls, and you happen not to fit that exactly). Either way, when a girl makes every effort possible to avoid your company, make a commensurate effort to totally forget about her. She is not interested in you.
5. She outrightly disobeys your requests
Obeying requests from anybody does not always come so easily. Sometimes, it could be quite uncomfortable for you but you have to do so anyways, especially if you love someone. For example, asking a girl to call you back when she is not available at the moment, or asking her to apologize when you point out where she has offended you, may not be so comfortable for her, but if she truly loves you and is interested in you, she would do it very easily.
There is a clear line between outright disobedience and unavailability. It doesn’t mean that she would not fail to answer some of your requests, of course, she would countless times. But each time you point out to her that she has not done what you asked her to do, she would not try to defend herself or make a fool of you.
6. She doesn’t ever hug you openly
Generally, hugs are signs of emotional attachment or closeness. Girls only hug people they are very close to even if they are members of the same sex, that is, fellow girls. When a girl persistently refuses to hug you, it is a clear sign that she does not want anything to do with you even if you can clearly see that she likes you.
At this point, it is important to clearly state that a girl can like you (I mean, sexually or emotionally interested in you) but not want you. I will talk more about this in the next section.
7. She doesn’t make any effort to reach out when you ignore her
I have a girlfriend I genuinely love, and who loves me too. Maybe this makes you believe more what I am saying in this post and what I would say next. However, this is one clear sign that made me know if a girl loves to be with you or not.
Attention in every relationship ought to be balanced and not one-sided, and if you find yourself in a one-sided affair, you should run away as fast as you can. You may be asking, how do you recognize a one-sided relationship? It’s simple and can be summarized thus; when a girl does not make effort to keep you when you feel exhausted by your efforts, it is clearly a one-sided relationship.
For several reasons, you might want to pedal down a bit to see if your partner still loves you. Ladies generally begin to feel uninterested when you give them ‘too much’ attention. I don’t know exactly why that is so but it is something I have experienced countless times. At such times, you might want to withdraw your attention a small bit and watch if she would come back to check up on you.
Can a girl like you but still be uninterested in you?
This looks like a trick question but the straightforward answer is “yes”. A girl can like you or be physically attracted to you but still be uninterested in anything that has to do with you. I have had this experience as well. As a guy, things like intelligence, composure, and good looks can attract a girl to you but it takes a more careful decision for a girl to want to be with you. She needs to be satisfied with everything you have to offer and be willing to let go of what you don’t have.
A girl can leave an ambitious man even though he was drawn to his ambitious nature simply because he doesn’t have ‘the money’ at the moment. She would then go for someone who has ‘what’ she wants. Good for everyone, because she gets to meet who she wants to be with, and the man gets to find someone else who appreciates him for who he is. In any case, it is important to restate that a girl can be attracted to you and also be uninterested in you at the same time.
Lastly, there is a very thin line between a girl who likes you and one who does not even if one or more of the signs above are present. For you to be able to know the exact intent of a girl, in respect of her interest in you or a relationship with you, you need to be patient, attentive, and calm.
It is easy to allow emotions to overwhelm you when a girl shows you any of the signs above, but as usual, there are no hard and fast rules. A girl can be interested in you but still put up signs that she is not. It’s yours to carefully decide what to believe while using the above as a guide. I may be able to help further if I listen to your peculiar case story, either by dropping it in the comments section or contacting us via email. Either way, I am always happy to help.
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