You may be wondering ‘what do women find attractive in a man?’ Maybe because you want to become a man that would attract the love of your life to you.
When you consider what attracts women to men, money comes up as one of the most important things you could think of, and it truly is. You see one rich guy attracting all the beautiful women around him and you decide you must make money to attract the women as well. However, there are several things that can make you more attractive to women besides money. This explains why the cute, confident, but not-so-rich guy across the street also has a trail of women attracted to him.
Here in this article, you will see 10 things other than money that attracts women to men. All these things are things you can always work on and improve at any time. So don’t think this article might disqualify you in any way.
10 Things That Attract Women To Men
1. Intelligence
Most women are naturally drawn to men with a very high IQ, and if you are ever wondering why the intelligent guy in your class had a lot of girls behind him, now you know. Women are naturally attracted to intelligent men in ways we cannot fully explain, much like the way men are attracted to a pretty woman.
A possible explanation for why this happens could be that women find men who are intelligent and easier to relate with. She perceives that the man would be able to understand her better and understand how to direct conversations, as well as help her with some tough mental tasks when she needs such help. One last reason why women are attracted to intelligent guys is that women may relate intelligence to higher chances of becoming successful in life.
2. Body posture and physique
The predominant way you position your body communicates a lot about you to women who are observing you. For example, slouching may make you look less confident and afraid. Women don’t like fearful men because it makes them think he is a coward who cannot protect them when she needs help. Having a good body posture can therefore help you attract more women to your side.
Also, a man’s physical build is another thing women look out for. A big muscular man would get more attention from the ladies than a lanky guy on the other side. Women just get fascinated when they see well-built muscles.
3. Good looks
Men are more attracted to beauty than women. That is, more men would rank ‘beauty’ as a top criterion to choose a mate than women would consider ‘ handsomeness’ in a guy. However, that does not mean women don’t look at appearance or are not attracted to it.
Women are attracted to a clean, good-looking guy but they are repelled by one who is looking dirty and unkempt. Little things like wearing clean cloth, ironing your clothes, shaving, smelling nice always, and appearing smart can make you become the centre of attraction to every woman you come across on a daily basis.
4. Passion and ambition
Every woman loves an ambitious man that is passionate about what he does no matter how small it may seem. Being passionate communicates to a woman that the man is focused on his dreams and hopeful about where he is going. This attracts her to him irrespective of how far apart they might be in their respective social status or financial status.
Being ambitious comes with the ability to make one highly successful and you can see why a woman would be attracted to a passionate and ambitious person more than one who obviously has no future ambitions.
5. Strong beliefs/firmness
For some reason, men are expected to be firmer in their beliefs and how they relate with people outside. A man who is too weak in his beliefs and decisions scares a lot of women away from himself. This is because many women interpret a lack of firmness as weakness, such that it makes them think the man will be unable to resist sexual and emotional temptations from other women outside.
Lack of firmness could also be interpreted as the man’s potential inability to control her as his wife. Naturally, you may think women should be more attracted to the soft nice man, right? In reality, however, women prefer the strong, firm man every time and at any time.
6. Confidence
Being confident is different from being stubborn or arrogant. Being confident in yourself means you are able to maintain your resistance against threats, intimidation, and fear. A lot of things and people threaten our confidence on a daily basis, many people may prefer to stay low-key to avoid being noticed. This demonstrates a lack of confidence and there is nothing less appalling to a woman than a man without self-confidence.
7. Listening capability and attentiveness
In my own opinion, listeners are a rare gem. Most people prefer to speak more than they listen but this is often counter-productive as far as effective communication is concerned. Women are attracted to a man who listens to people because they are assured that you would listen to her when she is talking to or with you too. When a woman notices that you are a great listener, she becomes more attracted to you than she already was.
8. Honesty
Everyone loves an honest person. Honesty is the bedrock of every successful relationship. This is because a lack of honesty makes a woman feel extremely betrayed and makes her lose the trust she has for you as a man. Women don’t easily trust people but when they do, they can trust you with all their hearts. If you end up betraying the trust they have for you, you might need to work extra hard to regain it or forget it altogether. Honesty is important to a woman because that is one way she would know that you won’t hurt her.
9. Hopefulness about life
When you are hopeful about life, women find you more attractive. Being hopeful keeps you excited about life, and this is something anyone would want to be associated with. Being helpless and depressed about life will only drive them away from you. This doesn’t, however, mean people suffering from depression can’t find a woman but a ray of hopefulness about your life can make a big difference in how women get attracted to you.
10. Fun and liveliness
Men who are fun, lively and spontaneous are generally more attractive to women. Women want someone who is fun to be with. Life is too boring on its own to be with someone who is extremely boring. When a woman knows that you are open to leisure, play, and recreation, you might become more attractive to her.
Other things women are attracted to in a man
Asides from these ten things above that attract women to any man who possesses them, here is a list of other important things that can make you super magnetic to every woman you meet.
- Smiles: Apart from your looks and general appearance, smiling can make you super attractive to any woman you meet.
- Storytelling: If you are a good storyteller, or you are good at humour, you would be sure to get a lot of girls by your corner.
- Growth-promoting: Most women who are interested in self-development get attracted to a man who challenges them to grow and improve themselves.
What is the first thing that attracts a woman to a man?
According to the Dr Gordon Patzer PhD., one of the world’s leading authorities on the subject of physical attractiveness, and the author of the book, “Looks: Why They Matter More Than You Ever Imagined”, appearance is one of the first things a lot of women notice in a man in the first few minutes. “A substantial portion of the six features of a man are apparent, in terms of height, weight and overall physical attractiveness,” he says.
Height and weight are some of the first things a woman notices in a man. Dr Patxer further added that “Too much or too little of either immediately classifies the man as unattractive to women, and closes the door before less physically obviously features (such as confidence) can be determined.”
Final words
Knowing what attracts you to women and being able to control them gives you ample opportunities to find the girl you want, initiate an interaction, and thereafter win her to your side. Attraction is the first thing that brings you close enough for the rest events to follow, so you need to optimize your attractiveness before the ladies if you want to stand a fair chance to get the one you are most attracted to.