All men are cheats, flirts, liars, and everything bad. So the very experienced ladies would say. Very experienced because they are pretty sure about their claims. But could this be just another arbitrary statement deduced from a case with one man as a reference sample, or were all men actually tested before the statement was made? An answer to this will enable us to verify the statements as either true or false.
That being said, we still cannot completely rule out the fact that there are some truths in the statements. There is not sufficient statistical information to very how much male doctors are actually involved in promiscuity but for all we know, doctors are humans like all of us and the male doctors are men too, like their counterparts in other professions.
According to perspectiveoftroy.com, 57% of men overall admit to committing infidelity at some point in their lives and 22% of married men admit to having an affair at least once during their marriages. Contrary to the popular opinion that all men are cheats, it is possible that there are a few men, at least, who are not like the way everyone sees them.
Flirting and Promiscuity
It is important to understand what “flirting” and “promiscuity” generally are. Flirting as defined by The Free Dictionary means acting as if one is sexually attracted to another person, usually in a playful manner. Wikipedia referred to it as coquetry and puts it as a social and sexual behaviour involving spoken, written, as well as body language by an individual to the other usually of sexually compatible sex, which suggests to them an interest in a deeper relationship even if done playfully or just for amusement.
Without swaying too much from the topic, let’s explore possible reasons why male doctors are naturally considered flirts and promiscuous. Certain behaviours are commonly expressed by either sex/gender and people naturally tag anyone belonging to that gender as also having the same behaviour. Some would argue that all women are gold chasers, you would argue the contrary, right? The same goes when people hold to the belief that all men are cheats, flirts, liars and quite a number of other bad things. Are male doctors flirts and promiscuous? I will leave that for you to answer later.
Are Doctors Promiscuous?
If put to a vote, I can’t quite say if it will be in favour of the doctors; after all, the majority wins the vote. But what are the reasons why doctors are considered super-cheats, even more than other men out there? There are justifiable reasons that this claim may not be true.
In the inverse, do non-medical guys/men flirt less than doctors? What then makes doctors different and worse off? There are some factors that may make the general public view doctors as more flirty, by way of being more opportune to do so. Let’s see a few reasons here.
Reasons Doctors Are Considered More Flirty and Promiscuous
When people say doctors are more promiscuous or flirtatious, here are some reasons why they think so.
Doctors are more financially comfortable
Doctors are easily taken for their word
Ladies naturally love the doctors
A number of them are actually promiscuous
Ladies are too expectant
The stress of the profession
How do these reasons explain why people naturally consider doctors to be more flirtatious? Like I said earlier, it may be a result of the thinking that doctors are better positioned to encounter such scenarios, or that they can take advantage of naive ladies who simply crave for them because society places the doctor in an esteemed position.
Doctors are Financially Comfortable
He is a doctor! What most people imagine are big sums in his bank account. True enough, doctors are not poor people but those large sums you are imagining may not be real. Doctors earn more than workers in most other professions; which also increases the burden of demand by their families and society. Most times, they can afford a fairly comfortable life, nothing more, nothing less., or maybe with an excess of honour and reverence by the society.
The perception that they are comfortable and prosperous normally attracts more people into their lives, including ladies – fair, dark and beautiful. Also, there are fewer things to worry about that might deter them from having affairs with the ladies. With all these comforts, you would imagine that doctors have more opportunity to flirt and exploits these opportunities accordingly, but suffice to say that there are always exceptions. In this case, the exceptions may even be the majority.
Doctors are Easily Taken for Their Word
The social prestige the doctor gets from society places them in a position of authority and trust. People generally regard doctors as honest and trustworthy. They would take them for their word at all times. This is a good thing in itself but here is how it can affect people’s notions about their promiscuity and flirtation.
When you meet a doctor that is flirting with a lady, the story goes slightly differently. Most men say “I love you” to women that are not their partners or for whom they have no serious interest in marriage. They might do this for one or two reasons, which could be ulterior or frankly innocent. Even though ladies have always learned never to take a man’s word for it at all times, ladies who fall in love with the unsuspecting doctor would believe without any doubt that the doctor means the love he is professing to her.
Now see what happens! When she realises that the doctor was just playing innocently with her, she becomes really offended and obsessed at the same time. She then does anything possible to ruin his reputation even though he didn’t do anything as serious as she would put it.
Not one, not two, not even three ladies would experience this in your lifetime. The very reason you cannot deny hearing of a number of cases where a lady declares publicly certain things that may threaten the image of a doctor. You have witnessed this, haven’t you?
Doctors are Naturally Loved by The Ladies
For some reason, ladies naturally love male doctors. On the joking side, I think they are usually handsome. Hm? Together with their stable income, their sense of self-composure, and integrity of the profession, their market value really rises for the ladies. They seek after them so hard and even the ones that would carelessly say “they don’t like being with doctors” may just be saying that by mere saying
There are two things we can deduce from this. As more ladies come around the doctor, he has to find a way to interact with the ladies both cautiously and courteously. But spectators from a safe distance could be quick to assume that he is flirting or even engaging in promiscuity with them.
Sure, quite a number of the doctors would later become promiscuous as you will see in the next heading.
A Number of Doctors are Actually Promiscuous
It is difficult to try to isolate doctors into a separate class of humans outside other men. There is a high standard imposed on doctors by society that places them in the same rank as clergymen as far as morality is concerned. Little wrongs and mistakes by the doctor would come looking so grievous but the same offences committed by other people would not make such great noise.
Men generally have a huge number of them that are promiscuous but when the subset of male doctors, who are also men, are seen engaging in such acts, the society considers it worth noticing more and talking about. One regular question I’m always asked is “why are male doctors very promiscuous?” But truthfully, any other man out there could act the same way or even worse irrespective of the profession.
The Ladies are Too Expectant
When you see someone you are not interested in, what do you do? You give way or even run away from them. But when someone you like or are interested in tiptoed once, you find yourself walking towards them. Isn’t it so? It’s the same with ladies and doctors. Because of their interest in having them, they see small flirtations as big signs of mutual interest. Whereas, the young doctor is only catching the cruise.
The expectant ladies would later find out that the doctor wasn’t that serious about the flirtations or he was doing them for mere amusement or just for the conversation’s sake.
Who would not wish for a doctor as a husband? She would go the extra mile to keep him while oblivious of the fact that he was in fact, just flirting with her.
The Stress of The Profession
If you are close to doctors, especially in some developing nations of the world like Nigeria, Ghana, and India, you will discover how much stress the medical profession carries along with itself. But how does this relate to promiscuity?
Some unmarried male doctors could seek relief from engaging in promiscuity or sexual behaviours and protected and unprotected sex with ladies they find beautiful and alluring, and also vulnerable. The married ones may be more restricted than the unmarried male doctors but if other married men could engage in such behaviours, a few married male doctors could also be included in that subset.
Are All Men The Same?
You have dated enough men to think that they are all the same, so you think. Most of the time, ladies pick out guys they go out with based on certain specific characteristics like looks, lifestyles, social circles, life goals, intelligence, empathy, and personality. But they ignore other aspects of the guy and the red flags they may be flashing at them.
It now looks as though the statement that “all men are the same” has become a way for ladies to console themselves when their man messes up or cheats on them. As though, when they assure themselves so, it would mean that their man is not the worst man in the world. They are all the same. Maybe that helps her to move on easily or so I choose to think. I stand to be corrected, however.
On the other extreme, some ladies would use that statement as a way to express their rage and disappointment about how “countless” men have committed the exact same crime of cheating on them and/or dumping them.
But on a more serious note, on the basis of their emotional framework and their default nature of behaviour to and with members of the opposite sex(the ladies), all men act and behave the same way. Mature men have very many things in common, such that they understand each other so perfectly in ways that the women cannot understand. But that is not to say that the negative attributes naturally supposed to be present in all of them are fully expressed by all of them.
Not every guy will cheat, fear commitment, disrespect you, or break your heart. But if you keep dating the same types of men, ignoring the red flags and thinking all men are the same, they stay that way to you. All men are not the same.
Why Do Men Flirt?
If you ask the question why do men flirt? What I begin to think is that some of those behaviours of men towards women were wired into them for a purpose. For example, it has been observed that ladies generally enjoy conversations with guys when they are doing it in the flirting mode. It relaxes them when a guy expresses love to them irrespective of the intention. But the only problem is that they soon get lost in the euphoria to begin thinking too quickly that this man is seriously interested in her.
But if at all, at what point does this flirting behaviour get out of place. When does it get morally and sociologically wrong?
“The way to a man’s heart is through the stomach but the way to a woman’s heart is…”. Men flirt to get what they want from women because that seems to really work a great deal but not all of them use that means to cheat on their partners or would-be spouses or deceive other interested ladies into heartbreak.
Alright, back to the doctors…
Biggest flirts of all time, the most promiscuous, heavy-weight cheats and the most heartless men out there. Why these unending tirades about doctors? We will see why doctors are considered to be naturally promiscuous in the next section.
Are All Doctors Flirts and Promiscuous?
Now, I’m certain that you can answer this with all certainty. I would still add that male doctors are not the only men who flirt or engage in promiscuity. With some factors that may increase the chances of the doctor getting involved in promiscuity, coupled with the overwhelming expectations by society for the doctor, the claim that doctors are flirts and promiscuous could easily gain more ground. Even if the claim that all doctors are flirts and promiscuous were to be close to the truth, there are still exceptions to the “all” adjectives.
Another footnote worth including is that the mere act of flirting may be seen as outrightly wrong by many people but the meaning of the term in the introduction does not seem so sinister. However, as a rule, if you have a partner who is sensitive to every act of flirting, that is, hates it when you act “too” nice or friendly with other people, especially of the opposite, you should know how to avoid having trouble with your partner.
Acting to a lady in such a way that suggests to her that you are emotionally attracted to her, in reality, actually creates a better medium to ask her for assistance either for business, academics or otherwise. However, care must always be taken to ensure that all such acts and actions do not metamorphose into something more sinister, unintended and unhealthy to your relationship with your spouse or would-be.
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