All men are cheats, flirts, liars, and everything bad. So the very experienced ladies would say. Very experienced because they are pretty sure about their claims and they seem to have gone through a lot. But no doubt, this could be just another arbitrary statement deduced from a single reference experience with one man. If the majority of men could be tested by the same woman or at least more than just a handful, then it would be easier for us to answer the question, “Are all men promiscuous”?
Now, what about male doctors, the main reason why you are here? Why are male doctors singled out as big flirts, cheats and promiscuous? Does it mean male doctors cheat more than the average men? While we cannot statistically debunk the claims about doctors being big flirts and cheats, we still do not have enough evidence to support it too. But here, you will see some reasons why the claim seems very widespread.
Difference between flirting and promiscuity
While you proceed with this article, it is important for us to clarify two often misconstrued words – flirting and promiscuity.
Flirting, according to The Free DictionaryDefinition of flirts – The Free Dictionary, means acting as if one is sexually attracted to another person, usually in a playful manner.
Wikipedia also referred to flirting as coquetry and defined it as a social and sexual behaviour involving spoken, written, as well as body language by an individual to the other, usually of sexually compatible sex, which suggests to them an interest in a deeper relationship even if done playfully or just for amusement.Flirting – Wikipedia
Promiscuity, on the other hand, is the practice of engaging in sexual activity frequently with different partners or being indiscriminate in the choice of sexual partners.
The simple inference from these is that flirting and promiscuity are not the same. Flirting is often done for amusement or just some way of enhancing healthy feelings among sexually compatible individuals. However, it could progress into actual sexual intimacy and subsequently promiscuity if the boundaries are not respected well enough.
The generalization that all doctors are promiscuous
According to statistics, 75% of men admit to cheating in some way, at some point in their relationship with their partner, and 25% of married men have had at least one extra-marital affair in their marriage. Everyone cheats, men and women irrespective, but statistics have shown that men cheat more (74%) than women (68%).
These statistics may not have been exclusively carried out in doctors-only populations but their extrapolations can be generalised to doctors as well. This is because, just like every other individual on the surface of the globe, doctors are humans too.
Doctors have been generally known to be very promiscuous individuals, male doctors I mean, so much that if put to a vote, most people would support the claims that doctors are extremely promiscuous, even more than other men in the general population.
However, what would your answer be if we are to ask the questions in the following manner: do non-medical men flirt less than doctors? are non-doctors less promiscuous than doctors? You begin to see that there could be some reasons why doctors are assumed to be more promiscuous than other men.
Let’s see some of these reasons.
Reasons Doctors are Considered more Flirty and Promiscuous
Several assumptions have been made as to why most people generally accede to the flirtatious and promiscuous behaviours of doctors. Here, you will see the most refined reasons why male doctors are often considered more flirtatious and promiscuous than most other men.
1. Doctors are seen as financially comfortable
The singular reason that you are a doctor makes everyone start imagining huge sums in your bank account but that is not often the case.
Doctors have enough money to meet their basic needs, and maybe a little more than just basic needs, but those huge sums you often imagine might only be in your imagination. No doubt they earn more than workers in most other professions, but this significantly increases their burden of demand by their families and society. Also, there is a higher standard of living expected of them by society that they cannot afford not to keep up with.
Doctors lead a fairly comfortable and prosperous life even though the stress of the profession can be overwhelming. This perception of abundance can normally attract more women into a doctor’s life, most especially the unmarried ones, not excluding married doctors.
Different breeds of beautiful women can often compete to win a doctor’s heart because they perceive him as a hotcake and truly, he is. Coupled with a fairly comfortable life with less to worry about, you can accept that a doctor has more opportunities to be promiscuous, even when he is married.
In reality, however, doctors are not as promiscuous as you think. They are more faithful to their partners. Oftentimes, they are confined to the hospital to care for their patients and may not have so much time to frantically look for sexual affairs.
2. Doctors are easily taken for their word
You could not say doctors are the wealthiest but doctors receive an enormous amount of honour and reverence from society. The social prestige he gets places him in a position of authority and trust. People take doctors for their word most of the time but this is both good and bad if you’d ask.
Flirting as you saw earlier, is an act that suggests a desire to connect sexually with someone but without the true intentions. However, most instances of flirting progress further into sexual intimacy, and the more reason flirting is frowned upon by several individuals.
However, flirting cannot be extruded from any place. As a matter of fact, any working environment would become intense and unhealthy without a certain level of sexual intimacy. Believe it or not, this is true.
Because of how trusted the doctor is, he can oftentimes be misunderstood even when he is just having fun. This means that when a male doctor flirts with a woman, she might be more inclined to think that he means what he says. If he is unmarried, the lady might think he is asking her out for marriage even when he does not have a serious interest in her. This can make it even easier for him if he wants to exploit her sexually.
Things will blow out of proportion when the lady later realizes that he was not seriously interested in her. If he by any chance had sex with her, you can trust that she will never keep her calm until she totally dents the doctor’s social image. This can explain why you may have heard of more promiscuous doctors than you have about the most renowned barfly.
3. Doctors are naturally loved by ladies
I can’t quite tell the specific reason why ladies love male doctors so much. We’ve already talked about their just optimal wealth status. Maybe, some are quite handsome and well-dressed with a good sense of self-composure. These traits are alluring for any honest woman, even when they deny not being interested in doctors.
How this affects how doctors are perceived as promiscuous can be deduced in two ways:
- More ladies try hard to be with the doctor, even when he finds a way to deal with them cautiously and courteously.
- Spectators from a safe distance might misinterpret that to mean he is flirting or engaging in sex with all of them.
Well, that is not to absolutely say that a number of doctors won’t become promiscuous in the process.
4. A number of doctors are promiscuous
Male doctors are men too. It is not proper to isolate them from the crop of other men and the behaviours they are capable of exhibiting. If statistically, most men cheat, there was nothing mentioned to exclude male doctors from the statistics. So, why blow that of doctors out of proportion beyond the atrocities committed by most other men?
The reasons are not far-fetched as we have seen in this post. There is a higher standard imposed on doctors by society; almost the same rank occupied by clergymen. Little moral wrongs and mistakes often turn out to become more explosive and grievous than far worse offences from other people.
So, when next you ask, “Why are male doctors very promiscuous”, remember every man is capable of being promiscuous. Doctors are no exception.
5. Many ladies are too expectant
A lady once visited a popular Twitter doctor in the UK. They allegedly met on Twitter and became friends from there. After a series of conversations, chats and calls, she decided to visit her all the way from Nigeria. Shortly after, the lady went on to announce on Twitter how she had an affair with the doctor on visiting him. She also added a cover story to it that he promised her marriage but ended up using her.
For some of the reasons discussed above, many ladies can be too expectant when it comes to doctors. Even if I am not in support of one-night stands, and affairs with no strings attached, these things happen and everyone moves on from there. They oftentimes see small flirtatious behaviours or casual relationships are big signs of mutual interest because they are interested in the doctor.
The news later blows up, just like it was for that doctor because the lady realizes it can potentially impact the doctor’s social life if they do so; further consolidating the claim that doctors are promiscuous.
6. The stress of the profession
If you have ever been in the medical profession or you are close to a medical doctor, especially those in developing countries, you will understand how stressful the profession is. The stress is visible and palpable.
There are several means people relieve their body of stress. These include taking a short rest, going on a break, taking a leave, sleeping adequately if they can, etc. Many people have somehow attributed the claim that doctors are promiscuous to the stress of the profession, saying that it is understandable for doctors to seek relief from the stress by engaging in sex with beautiful ladies who fall for them.
While that might be true, there is no sufficient information to support or refute the claims. However, from my close experience with doctors and other health workers in my locality, I can say that is grossly erroneous and may not be true.
Reasons why doctors may be promiscuous
There are certain reasons that may predispose medical doctors to a lifestyle of promiscuity. Some of these reasons are as follows:
All of the reasons above are possible reasons why doctors may be promiscuous; the stress of the profession, the love and respect they receive from society and women, financial comfort, and so on.
Are all men the same?
It is high time, we stop making generalizations from just a minority subset of people. A lady has only been with a handful of guys someone of which dumped her, and some of which she dumped but she thinks she has sufficient statistics to conclude that all men are the same.
Wouldn’t it be unfair to equally say that all women are the same? Of course, it will be. What we should all understand is that no one is perfect in general. And when you talk about a particular attribute, for example, gross promiscuity, you cannot also generalise that there are no exceptions. You can only speak for the ones you have encountered.
As a lady, to avoid falling victim to the guys who use and dump you, it is important that you look out for the red flags early in the relationship. So you don’t fall in love merely based on looks and external qualities. The same applies to men who are interested in a lady. If done rightly, this should eliminate the need for ladies to proclaim that all men are the same just to make them feel better after a painful heartbreak or to get back at the entire men race.
That notwithstanding, on the basis of their emotional interactions with ladies, all men share many things in common. For example, mature men understand the reasons why they cheat or behaviour in some of the ways they do. But this is not to say that every guy will cheat on you, will fear commitment, disrespect you or break your heart. You just haven’t seen the disciplined ones because you probably ignore the red flags.
Why doctors are not promiscuous?
Doctors are obviously the crowned biggest flirts of all time, the heavy-weight cheats and the most heartless men out there but here are some reasons to debunk these unending tirades about doctors.
- They have seen it all, in and out.
- They are always busy.
- They are well aware of the risks of promiscuity including STIs.
- Their long stay in school ensures that they are more emotionally mature by the time they leave school.
- Many of them are bookworms. Yeah, you heard that right.
I strongly believe you are now in a better position to answer the question, “are all doctors promiscuous?”. I wouldn’t talk about this any longer. However, it is always important to understand that to every rule, there are exceptions. Don’t get stereotyped by the experiences of others so that you don’t get to see the truth about other people.
Finally, with these few points of mine, I hope to have convinced you, and not to have confused you that not all doctors are dangerous flirts or promiscuous.
|↑1||Definition of flirts – The Free Dictionary|
|↑2||Flirting – Wikipedia|
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