Love is a beautiful feeling but it is also a very complicated feeling. There are so many things about love that makes it very confusing and hard to understand. This content will give you a deeper understanding of what love is and how to make your dream girl fall in love with you.
Heads up! It is inappropriate to try to make someone fall in love with you. Love should be mutual and allowed to develop naturally. So instead of expecting to see how to control a girl’s feelings to make her fall in love with you, what you will see here are healthy ways to make her interested in you, or to build the feelings if she already likes you.
Here, you will see some effective ways to make your dream girl fall in love with you. By “dream girl”, I mean, that girl you have been crushing on for some time now.
What does it mean to fall in love?
Falling in love is the experience of developing deep romantic feelings and emotions for someone, usually with the intent of making them your partner. The “falling” describes the uncontrollable power of love over someone’s emotions. You find yourself wanting to spend a lot of time thinking about the person you have fallen in love with and specially characterized by the feeling of “butterflies in your belly”.
Falling in love is a subjective experience and the characteristics changes throughout life and the experience of the individual. However, the constant feature about falling in love is the desire to be with the person always, and the expression of a strong emotional connection with them.
Someone can spontaneously fall in love with you, and you can also make them fall in love with you. All of these involve an interplay of personal preferences and the expression of the right signals that establish an emotional connection.
While you read these tips on how to make a girl fall in love with you, note that you may inadvertently make someone you don’t like fall in love when you unknowingly do these things to the person.
How to make a girl fall in love with you
Making a girl fall in love with you is not any game of manipulation. You are not trying to force her to fall in love but you are making her know that you are seriously interested in her. Every girl desires someone who is head over heels for them.
1. Focus on your own life
Being interested in a girl does not mean you don’t have a life anymore. The feeling of falling in love might make you want to spend all your time chasing her but this can be a problem in itself. In fact, a girl would lose more interest in you if she finds out that you don’t have anything else to do with your life.
If you are a student, a worker, or an entrepreneur, don’t let love make you neglect your primary duty. Dedicate some time to trying to get the girl of your dream to fall in love with you but don’t let the chase take your life away from you.
2. Start a conversation and keep it going
To make a girl fall in love with you, begin by initiating a conversation with her and doing it right. Approach her with an open attitude. Be a little flirty, subtly engage your charms but don’t be in a rush. You want the familiarity to grow naturally. Take it one step at a time, otherwise, she thinks you are just like everyone else.
Start by asking about her well-being and that of her family. Express care and concern for her and subtly inquire about other important aspects of her life including her hobbies, education, etc. It is important to take it slowly, use your discretion, and just act naturally. As much as you are trying to establish a connection, she also wants to know the kind of person you are. So, just be yourself.
3. Be patient and optimistic
Making a girl fall in love with you is not an easy thing at all if that’s what you were thinking. Even if a girl shows signs that she likes you, she would not make it very easy for you to get her. Be patient, optimistic, and tolerant. It can be pretty hard to keep up with the attitudes but very few people can make it that far. You can be the lucky one.
Be ready to put up with some attitudes you might not very comfortable with. This is not the time to claim rights or assert your personal pride. No matter how she behaves towards you, accept that this is the price you have to pay to win her heart.
4. Show little gestures of love and care
You have to be romantic and expressive to make her fall in love with you. Little gestures of love and care go a long way to make her fall for you. Send her romantic good morning messages, remember her birthday and make it memorable. She will never forget your acts of love and soon, she would be persuaded that you truly deserve her love and care too.
5. Start by being her friend and make it fun
Making a girl fall in love with you is not some black magic that makes her drool after you. You must first create the enabling platform for friendship and companionship. From there, you begin to build on the attraction you might already have for each other.
Very importantly, you want to make it fun and comfortable for her. Otherwise, she may begin to see her friendship with you as burdensome and disturbing.
6. Listen to her when she talks
When they say “little things matter”, listening is one clear example of such. A girl is more likely to fall in love with you if she sees that you are mature enough to listen to her. Listening is a skill and an attitude that you must deliberately cultivate. While it may help you in other areas of your life, your ability and patience to listen can help you win over the love of your life.
7. Appreciate her when she does something nice
Everyone needs someone who appreciates them. One very important attribute most women are looking for is being someone who appreciates them. Appreciating someone makes them feel better about themselves and improves their self-worth. This is important for their personal growth and development. It becomes clear how appreciating her more can make her fall in love with you.
8. Avoid being too clingy
If you are clingy, it becomes very difficult to make a girl fall in love with you. First, clinginess makes her think you don’t have anything else to do with your life. Second, it disturbs her peace and personal freedom. To make a girl fall in love with you, you need to avoid being clingy.
Being too clingy repels her away from you. Hence, you need to give her enough space while still showing her how much you care about her.
9. Give her good attention
I would be right to say that ladies are “attention-seeking” beings. I will be more right to put it that everyone loves attention. Paying attention to the needs of your partner in a relationship is one ingredient to sustain it. Lack of attention can result in so many problems in any relationship. Because of this, your dream girl might want to look out for your ability to give her good attention before they consent to fall in love with you.
10. Don’t make yourself always available
It is a universal rule that if something or someone is too available, people often take it for granted. This also applies when trying to make a girl fall in love with you, or even midway into the relationship. Some people are careful enough not to despise your availability but most people would take it for granted.
Naturally, different activities make you less available by default, but you can still choose to be always available if you want. To make a girl fall in love with you, create a balance of being available to her but not always available. Allow your work, education, or other important vocations in your life to have their own time too.
11. Be the perfect gentleman
Small gentleman gestures can instantly melt your girl’s heart and make her fall in love with you. Letting her order first at the restaurant, getting the door for her and letting her enter first, standing up for her when seats her limited, standing by the inward side of the road when walking with her in the pedestrian lane, etc, are some examples of gentlemanly gestures that can make her fall in love with you.
Others include being polite, showing that you care, and listening to her, some of which we have already seen in this article.
12. Accept her the way she is
The fastest way to make someone uncomfortable around you is by being very judgmental about their life and actions. Everyone has flaws and imperfections but it takes understanding and patience to overlook them. Making a girl know that you accept her the way she is can make her love you very deeply. This requires that you deliberately learn to be more patient with people.
13. Pay attention to your looks
You are not going to get the girl always looking like a tattered prisoner, are you? You need to pay attention to your looks. Dress well and neatly; keep your nails trimmed and hair cleanly shaved; and smell nice. Looking good is good business but having an unpleasant look and smell is one of the biggest turn-offs for women.
13. Be responsible
Being responsible means you are conscious about your decisions and determined about your future. It has to do with how you act and what guide you to act that way. Being responsible reflects in how you behave, how you handle finances, your attitude towards sex and women, and your diligence at work. It comes from a sense of being accountable for your actions and being able to control what you do or not.
14. Make her friends your friends
Knowing that her friends and family can have a big influence on the outcome of the relationship should prompt you to invest more than you already do into being close to those people. Gaining approval from her friends and family is also as important as gaining her approval. Even though her approval supersedes all, a girl can later be influenced to disapprove of you if you are not interested in establishing a relationship with her friends and family as well.
Also, it can be very difficult to access a girl when you trying to make her fall in love with you but if you become friends with her friends, they may help you get close enough to express your feelings to your dream girl.
15. Be proud of her
Now that you have started something meaningful with her, you want to make the process of falling in love with you a continuous one. In other words, you want her to keep falling in love with you for the rest of her life. One of the things to do to make her continually fall in love with you is to show that you are proud of her. Show her off or post her pictures regularly.
16. Create passionate moments
Turbulent times come during every relationship. Passionate moments serve as anchors you or your partner can hold on to while navigating through those times of turbulence. Small moments like kissing her lips or forehead can register a beautiful memory in her brain that can make her fall even deeper in love with you when she thinks about them.
17. Be loyal
Trying to make a girl fall in love with you does not mean that there are no other nice girls on the radar. There may be other women you like or who are interested in you but for good reasons, you chose your dream girl to be your one and only.
During this time of trying to make her fall in love with you, guard your loyalty to be focused on her only, and don’t be caught shifting focus, even if it seems she is being too hard to get. Go for what you want and stay focused.
18. Continually express your feelings
One key way to make a girl fall for you and stay in love is to constantly make her feel loved. No matter how busy you may become, or if she has seriously offended you, never take these as reasons to stop expressing to her how much you love her.
19. Make her feel secure
Your girl should feel safe and secure about you. Be a good listener and make her comfortable enough to share her secrets and worries with you. You should prioritize her in your life, such that she knows just how important she is to you.
Making her feel secure also entails that you constantly reassure her that she has every reason to trust you with all her heart.
20. Be persistent and nurture the love
It might take a while to fully get her to fall for you. Be persistent and when you make her fall in love with you, continue to nurture the love and passion you share for each other.
Keep valuing her after making her fall for you
As an emphasis to the last point above, making a girl fall in love with you is not a one-time thing. You need to consistently make her keep loving you by practicing the above things and other helpful gestures. While there is no specific formula to achieve this, the trick is to stay respectful, patient, and loyal to her.
Even if you become separated by distance at some point in the relationship, you must make efforts to build the connection. Plan dates, call and text her often, show her deep love and care, and appreciate her. These are not one-off events. You must continue to treasure her as the one and only love of your life.
It is easy to relax and not put effort into your relationship after winning a girl’s heart but that should not be the end. Otherwise, she starts losing the fire and end up leaving you. Love is sweeter when it is constantly stimulated.
Special abilities that will help you get a girl to fall easily
- Good understanding of the female gender: Understanding the context of a girl’s behaviors and actions will help you understand the secret messages she may be passing on to you. Girls communicate in distinct ways that every guy needs to understand, and once a girl knows that you understand her well enough, she is more inclined to fall in love with you than if you don’t.
- Empathy: Empathy is simply your ability to put yourself in another person’s shoes. It means to try to feel their experiences as though you were experiencing them yourself. This requires a deliberate decision to try to understand how someone is feeling and how they would react to certain experiences. Beautifully, when you are empathic, humans have a way of knowing that.
- Emotional maturity: Emotional maturity is your ability to control your emotions in every circumstance. Some emotions can be described as labile or volatile, for example, love, pain, and anger. However, you should be able to control your emotions, irrespective of what she does or does not do to trigger them.
- Social maturity: Social maturity may be a new phrase I coined to describe how someone can make you feel comfortable around you in public. Fear, shame, and confidence are contagious when you are with someone in a public space. If you are confident in public, the confidence can transfer to the other person you are interacting with. It is important that you are socially mature enough to express yourself to her in public and not make her feel embarrassed during the conversation.
- Listening: Listening is a skill you must consciously develop. As simple as it may seem, many people do not know how to listen to other people even when they are making valid points in the discussions. To be able to listen effectively, you must be genuinely interested in finding out what the person is actually trying to communicate, and not trying to be the only one who speaks.
- Patience: We have all severally disproved the statement that “the patient dog eats the fattest bone” but patience remains a very important virtue that can help you win a girl’s heart. When you are patient, it shows in your actions, speech, and behaviors that a girl can physically observe. If she sees that you are very impatient, she might turn you down permanently and distance herself from you.
Some foolish things you should not do to make a girl fall in love with you
Many people do one or all of these things here with the aim of making a girl fall in love with them. You should avoid doing these. And if you are probably already doing any of these, you should stop doing so now. Otherwise, you would build a relationship on a very faulty foundation.
1. Using money as a bait
A girl is not a game you are trying to hunt or a fish you are trying to catch. You should see her as more than just that. Many people try to manipulate a lady they are interested in to fall in love with them by using money as a trap.
Everyone likes money, but using money as bait to get some girls can make them hate you. It may work for others but eventually, your relationship would have been built on a faulty foundation.
This is not to say that there is no room for offering her gifts when trying to make her fall in love with you. We already talked about this in the preceding section. It is the intention that matters the most. When you give her money with the intention of using it to convince her to love you, you are doing it totally wrong.
2. Thinking you can use sex to manipulate her
To think that you can use sex to manipulate a girl into loving you is one of the biggest mistakes any man can make as far as their relationship and eventually marriage is concerned. Sex creates a strong bond in any relationship and it is an important ingredient in sustaining marriages. However, it should never be used as a first strategy to make a girl fall in love with you.
3. Making up lies to entice her
People go to great lengths to entice someone but you should know your limits. Being natural and real while you practice the above tips on how to make a girl fall in love with you, is all that is needed. Cooking up lies to entice her will make her hate you so much when she finds out you are lying. You should always ask yourself what happens when she finds out you do not have what you claim to have. It is worth noting that you don’t have to lie to make a good impression, you have to just be it.
Trying a girl to fall in love with you is not some game of manipulation. If you are seriously interested in making her your own, the above tips should help you win her over, but they are not restricted to only the 20 elements on the list.
It is neither right nor unfair to try to manipulate someone into falling in love with you, especially when it comes to the use of force or coercion. You should focus on being the best you can be and allow everything to flow naturally. Also, express your feelings in subtle ways until you are comfortable enough to openly declare them.
Lastly, it is not enough to simply make her fall in love with you. What is more important is being strong enough to win her heart and continually stay committed to sustaining love and passion.
And I don’t really think this is ideal “no matter how she behaves” 😪…… it’s ok to be patient but not to that extent of accepting any or everything as a supposed price you have to pay
Thanks for noting that, Gusta.
It is important a guy knows when to cut the chase. It is not a thing of magic to make a girl fall in love with you. Also as noted, trying to make a girl fall in love with you is not synonymous with manipulating her feelings like some magical stuff.
It is one’s ability to get more emotional closeness from a girl who is already interested in you.
Kindly drop a reply if there are any more contributions.
Thank you very much, Gusta.