Life is not easy on anyone but I have come to realise that being a guy is no small task at all. Aside from the many challenges and things to think of, there is an additional task of understanding ladies well enough even when they sometimes choose to make the process much more difficult for you. Do you know a lady who likes you, and probably, you like her too, but she is trying to hide it? I am here to help you find out without delay.
A majority of ladies will hide their feelings from you even when they madly want to be with you. This is neither wrong nor abnormal. They hide their intentions for several reasons as follows:
They are afraid that will make them lose value in your sight
It might make them feel cheap
They believe a man should do the hard work if he is really serious, etc
The reasons above and many more might seem flimsy and unserious but that is as far as we go. Under clear consciousness, without the influence of alcohol, a girl can keep hiding her feelings from you even when she is crushing hard on you.
How Is It Possible To Know A Girl Is Hiding Her Feelings
No matter how hard a girl tries to hide her feelings, there are subtle signs that can show that she likes you. Some of these signs are unintentionally displayed, without her being aware she is doing so. The rest, she intentionally shows you so you can make the move at her and win her heart. Don’t be too excited, it’s still not that easy to win a girl’s heart even if she likes you so much.
There is a difference between a girl being just nice and when she really likes you. This difference can be very confusing to anyone including some of the best relationship experts but it is important to be able to recognise the signs that she is interested in you because this knowledge can help you decide when and how to make a move on her.
Rationale Behind How Ladies Make Advances
If I may ask, do you think a lady should make advances on a guy she likes? Think about this while you read on and drop your answer in the comment below [We enforce the culture of mutual respect in our comments. It’s your opinion].
Culturally, men are the ones who ask the question, “Will you marry me”. Guys are the one who does the chasing. But is that entirely true?
Everyone likes to be chased, guys and girls alike but research has shown that girls particularly enjoy the chasing. They love the experience, especially when it’s coming from a guy they like but will grossly detest it if they are not interested in the guy. So, of course, she is going to have you chase her, at least a little bit.
Besides that, women usually have numerous options to choose from. Oh boy, you’ve got an overwhelming competition. You need to step up your game. On the other hand, to the girl, things just get so complicated having to choose one from an overwhelming number of likeable suitors. Yet, they won’t fold their hand to you if they truly like to be with you. They make advances too.
How Ladies Make Advances
Traffic lights have become the best way we have been able to describe ladies’ signals and how we should respond to them. We often talk about red flag signs as ominous signs that you should run. But how about the green flags or green light?
When a lady is interested in you, she flashes green lights at you. Whereas, anyone can misinterpret the green light signs as mere gestures of kindness, or over-emphasizing acts of kindness from a girl as romantic interests, properly recognising and situating them can help you in your search for a loving woman.
You notice the green light signs in the following mannerisms:
Making you notice her and her beauty
Changes in her behaviour towards and around you
Secret behaviour and gestures when you are not watching, etc
From my own experiences, greenlights can be very deceitful. Some girls just want you to chase without being ready to settle with you. In any case, I’m going to show you 30 signs that a girl likes you but she is only trying not to show it.
30 Signs a Girl Likes You But is Trying Not to Show it
This list might contain some behaviours that suggest that she is only playing with your emotions, behaviours that suggest that she does not want to be with you, or those that might mean that she outrightly hates you. Don’t fret, it is intended only to give you a better understanding of God’s most beautiful creatures – women.
She will try to get close to your friends
She will try to make you jealous
She will be seductive sometimes
She will try to come closer to you when you are avoiding her
She is happy when she is talking with you
She will sometimes shun you unnecessarily sometimes
She will invite you out sometimes
She will use every opportunity for physical contact
She will want to know everything about you
She engages with your interests
She will try to make you drunk or get drunk herself
She will spy on your sometimes
You will likely run into her by accident
Her best friend may act differently around you
She will be provocative around you
She will try to meet you when you are hurt
She will show signs that she expects you to comfort her when she is hurt
She will ask about your family
She will try to engage in physical contact with you when no one is watching
She will cheer you on
She has said “I hate you” or “leave me alone”
She hides her relationships from you
Her friends are going to try to set you both up
She is sometimes nice to you
She replies to your messages quickly
She wants to spend more time with you
She is low-key frustrated with you
She tries to show you her real character
Her behaviours change when there are other people around you
If you ask her the kind of guy she likes, she will describe some things about you
Here is a simple list of signs that a girl likes you even if she is trying not to show it, but what is more important is that you are able to accurately interpret what each sign means. Once, you have determined her true intentions, you should be ready to go all out to get her if you are ready for a relationship with her.
As a precaution, never allow yourself into a one-sided relationship. Learn to take a break from chasing if things are not going as you envisioned. Let us not explore the above signs in detail.
1. She will try to get close to your friends
When a girl likes you, she will do her best to stay as close as possible. When you see her get into trying to be close to your friends, she is doing so for three reasons. One, she wants to know you and watch you from a close distance, to know more about you because she likes you. Two, she wants to be able to have an access to freely interact with you without making it seem like she is trying to make obvious advances. Lastly, she knows that when she gets the acceptance of your friends, she is more likely to get yours too.
2. She tries to make you feel jealous
How else can she get you into the game than to make you feel jealous? Maybe, you are still acting cold and uninterested when actually you care about her deep down. The one way she can make you realise what you are probably missing out on is to make you feel jealous. This is what she does when she gives generous hugs and exchanges warm pleasantries with your close friends but ends up giving you none.
3. She will sometimes be seductive
Seduction is one of the commonest green light signs that a girl will give you if she likes you. It is their way of wooing men, if you think only men woo women. After flashing a few lights at you, she expects you to recognize it and take subsequent actions. If you like her too, you can ask her out for a date or ask to visit her.
Seduction has also been used to ask for sex, and if you are not sure what she wants exactly, you should keep off instead of responding to her seductions. In general, many people view seductions as too extreme ways for a lady to get the attention of a guy but seduction remains one of the best ways a lady can convey the feelings of her attraction to a guy she likes
4. She will try to come closer when you are avoiding her
When a girl likes you, she can sometimes act in weird ways, especially when your cold unreciprocated feelings are beginning to get to her. She can get nervous when you are around and may put up certain attitudes that may make you angry towards her. You should try to ignore these behaviours if you notice that they are a result of her anxiety but a few other times, you might just need to back off a little.
However, as you keep away, begin to observe her reactions. If she tries hard to find her way back into you, that might just mean she is not ready to give up on you just yet.
If you have previously tried to win a girl’s heart to no avail, it is always best to sometimes take a break from doing so while simultaneously observing her subsequent reactions. There are some girls that put up annoying behaviours all the time even when she feels attracted to you. Look out for the balance; if you think there are more negative moments than positive ones, you should step off permanently. She is either not interested in you even if she have the feelings for you.
5. She feels happy when talking with you
It is a different feeling when you are freely having a great conversation with someone you are attracted to. Many times you wish the moments never end, but sadly, it always appears so short-lived, only to leave you wishing for another opportunity. When a girl is happy, it shows in everything she does. Girls may hide feelings really well, but there will always be some evidence about how they feel inside.
When a girl feels excited when she is talking with you, especially when the conversation is just between you both, she may really be interested in you. The presence of other people around her can sharpen or blunt her emotional responses to you but when no other person is there to interfere, this can a pure expression of how she feels about you.
6. She sometimes shuns you unnecessarily
In a bid to get your attention, a girl that likes you may behave the opposite way towards you. Instead of continually showering love on you, she would even shun you, ignore you, pretend as if you are not there, or even outrightly ask you to leave her alone. All these behaviours can mean that she does not want to have anything to do with you, but in the same vein, they can also mean she likes you but she hates certain things about how you are taking things.
Not all attractions lead to serious relationships, and not all serious relationships lead to marriage, it’s possible that she only likes to be casual friend with you and nothing more.
7. She invites you out sometimes
How else can she have some time alone with you aside from going on a date alone together? It is not customary for ladies to be the first to ask for a date but when the guy is too shy or reserved to do so, some bold ladies will woman up and ask the guy out. Maybe you are always choked up at work or school, or there are many people around to make her feel more nervous. Having time alone, especially without your colleagues, will be a great thing for your relationship. If she invites you out on any occasion, draw closer to her. She has feelings for you.
8. She uses every opportunity for physical contact
Chemistry is activated by body contact and every girl knows that good physical contact can do a lot to their feelings about you. Hence, she clearly avoids any contact with you so that she does not have the feelings overwhelm her judgments and decision to be with you or not. She simply wants you to do the work to her heart and would not want her own feelings to make it too easy for you.
Even though she would not want to catch herself and initiate any form of physical contact with you, she loves every natural contact she has with you. Say, for example, a slight mistaken push by someone on your back makes you fall over her and hold her in some ways you would normally not be able to.
Just by the way, a girl that once made obvious attempts at you will suddenly stop doing so or switch to hate mode if at all. But even so, that does not mean that she does not love you anymore.
9. She wants to know everything about you
Not every girl care to know about you but when a girl walks up to you and try to ask questions about you, she might be implying that she is interested in you. Foreknowledge about each other is very crucial if a relationship will ever exist between you and if the relationship will be worthwhile. When someone loves you, they try to know more about you, your interested and plans for your life.
10. She engages with your interests
Football is a guys’ game; not many girls love football. This might sound like mockery or racism but it’s true. However, there are some ladies who have passionate interests in football and a few guys who don’t even know when the next football match would hold. But when a lady loves you, she often tries to accommodate for those things you like and begins to develop some love for them too. If a lady asks you about your interests and makes efforts to like them or talk about them with you, green light! she is probably interested in you.
11. She will try to make you drunk or get drunk herself
Don’t call this an act of desperation. There is almost no limit to the extent a girl can go for you if she truly loves you. We can say the same for guys too. But all of these can become clouded by their own consciousness. Should I, or should I not? “I should not” and that settles it. This can be a result of the fear consciousness can bring.
I have met many guys who demonstrated love in wild and unbelievable ways, sometimes going to the extent of making her drunk to reveal the truth to her. But sometimes a girl can prefer that you take alcohol at a party instead of on non-alcoholic drinks, or even allow herself to get drunk just because she wants either of you to be bold enough to say what you have been hiding all along or to make you act in ways she would really love.
12. She sometimes spies on you
What do you know about peripheral vision? Sometimes, when you look straight ahead, you are still able to see things by the side of your eyes. If a girl likes you, you may sometimes catch her spying on you with her peripheral vision.
A few times, she stops hiding it – stares at you directly for a few seconds, admiring you and trying to understand your prevalent mood, temperament and personality. If you catch her on three or more occasions, she might just be dying for you without trying to say it openly.
13. You will likely run into her by accident
When one say there are no accidents, one is trying to brace up to face the reality that probably stares right into one’s face. When something happens only once, we can easily dismiss it as an accident but when it keep happening, it no longer becomes an accident.
If you keep running into the girl or see her often, there are high chances that these are not mere coincidence anymore. It is possible that she is trailing or guessing where you could be at such a time and try to meet up. If you keep seeing her around even when she makes no efforts to, it could be nature’s way of telling you that she is interested in you. The bottomline is, there are really no accidents.
14. Her best friend may act differently around you
The behaviour of her best friend can depend on a number of factors. She may act cool if she likes you for her friend or if her friend, the girl you are interested in, have told her good things about you. She can put up a very nasty behaviour if the girl in question does not approve of you, or if this best friend simply wish to date you instead.
Sometimes, when her best friend thinks the relationship might not end good enough for both of you, she may become protective and try to guard her friends moves against you. Whether these security measures by a concerned but nosy friend are necessary will be a topic for another day.
15. She will sometimes act provocatively around you
When a girl likes you, she will sometimes show her provocation to you when other people offend her around you. She want to see how well you can stand for her to defend her. If you were not around, maybe she would have simply ignored the incidence but not while you are here. If you are able to tell that she is acting up because you are there, that is a good sign she likes to be with you. Seize your moment if you like her too.
16. She will try to meet up with you when you are hurt
Love, they say is caring and kind. No matter how hard someone’s feelings are towards you, the best way to find out is when you are hurt. When someone loves you, they don’t want to see you hurt. When you are fine, they can sometimes act carelessly but when anything happens to you, they immediately begin to show how hard it is for them to see you hurt.
If a girl likes you, she will always try to meet you or comfort you when you are going through some hurt of any kind. Sometimes, even if she feels restrained from doing so, you can palpably see her attempt to reach out to you.
17. She will show signs that she expects comfort from you when she is hurt as well
We know it’s none of your duties to comfort each other at this point of the potential relationship with you both but just as you may expect some consolation from her when you are hurt, a girl that likes you expect the same. Coming from you, comfort can mean the whole world to her and even though things are not quite there yet, she wishes you were her relationship partner already.
To avoid making her feel betrayed, reach out to her and comfort her but try not to push beyond your own feelings. If you don’t like her too, don’t make her feel you do when you are just reacting based on her feelings for you. Even if you love her too, try not to overdo anything. Sometimes, being too lovey-dovey hurts a relationship with your girl.
18. She will ask about your family
When a person asks you intimate questions about your personal and family life, it is a clear sign that they are interested in you. It also means that they want you to know about them too because asking such questions would definitely make you reciprocate the questions to them too.
If that beautiful really likes you and she is open enough to let you get into her personal space, she would ask you about your family and hopes that you get to know her better too.
19. She will try to engage in physical contact when no one is watching
When other people are around, she would never even come close or even make an attempt to do so. This is due to the same reasons we have already seen earlier. She wants to remain outside the radar, she doesn’t want to be publicly seen as being desperate to have you. Maybe she is too proud to express herself in public, or maybe you are the one that is too proud, but when you are alone together, she would do the best she can to have some physical contact with you.
20. She will cheer you on
When a girl likes you, she will show you that she is your number fan and cheerleader. Maybe that’s because she is free to celebrate anybody on the pitch, and other people might not notice that she is doing it for you. But if you are observant enough, you will realise that she doesn’t only cheer you on during the games but she also steals some glances at you with a face full of warm smiles.
21. She has said “she hates you” or “leave me alone”
Love is a strong word, and hate is also a strong word. It’s easier for someone to tell you that they don’t like you than for them to directly tell you that they hate you. And even more romantically, if she says she hates you while she is smiling, she might just be telling you that she loves you but in a more obscured way.
Likewise, if she tells you to leave her alone. Watch out for her demeanour when she says so, and watch out for her reaction in the next few minutes. If she tries to come back to you, or she still displays happiness and smiles at you, she definitely likes you.
22. She hides her relationships from you
Have you ever asked her about her relationship status and she tells you that she can’t answer that? I presume she has told you so if you have asked her. Sometimes, both of you can be having a good moment talking together and the atmosphere just feels set for you to ask her about her relationship status. If she tells you to skip that question, it most likely means she is single and interested in you. The other likely possibility is that she has a rather uncommitted boyfriend but she thinks you will be better for her or she loves you more.
23. Her friends are going to try to set you both up
As far as her possible relationship with you is concerned, there are three groups of friends a girl could have. One, those that will like you for her. Two, those that will do everything possible to stand in the way of your union, and third, those that simply don’t care what happens between you two.
No matter how secretive your girl can be, she often finds herself telling certain of her friends some very intimate things about you and your advances. While some of her friends will try to discourage her, others will try to set you both up for some romance to enhance the proposal. This could be in your classroom, your workplace or by inviting you both independently to a party. If this happens, just know that she says good about you when she is with her friends. She is interested.
24. She is sometimes nice to you
I am using “sometimes” because it is possible you are not yet sure if the girl likes you or not. She acts nice to you today and the next, she is not. As crazy as it may sound when a girl you likes behaves this way, she most likely likes to be with you. In other words, she allows her mood to decide how she behaves towards you. That can be her subtle way of making you understand how her mood changes because they surely do swing often.
25. She replies to your messages quickly
When a girl ignores your messages for too long, it is a clear sign that she is seeing someone else already. However, that is not an absolute fact; there is hardly anything absolute in the world of relationships. It could be that she is busy at that time or she might be having some serious engagements that can hinder her from responding to you. But if a girl actually replies to your messages very promptly, that’s a plus right there. She places you as a high priority in her life. She obviously likes you.
26. She wants to spend more time with you
Most of these things are not absolutely applicable to every case. You can have a girlfriend that doesn’t want to intrude into your personal time, she just doesn’t try to push you to spend more time than you planned. People are different, you know. However, one quick sign to know that a girl likes you but is hiding it is that even though she may not say it with her mouth, her actions will signal to you that she wants to spend more time with you.
27. She is low-key frustrated with you
When you seem too slow to take a committed step in the relationship, it can make the girl feel annoyed or frustrated with you. If you begin to notice this, it should be a pointer that she may have liked you for so long without any effort from you.
28. She tries to show you her real character
Nowadays, people can pretend for as long as it takes to gain some favour. Partners in a relationship can hide their characters for a very long time. When a girl likes you, she would want to gain your acceptance. She will do her best to show you her real character, she will be as open and transparent as possible. This is because she wants to assure you that you are one person she is willing to trust. Still another way of wooing you over.
29. Her behaviours change when other girls are around you
A combination of fear, anxiety and love makes her behave differently when there are other people around. The same common reason that makes women hide their feelings even when they like someone also plays out here. Once again, what is that common reason? Ladies do not want to appear cheap and worthless. And also, ladies hate to be dumped. They would rather keep hiding under the cloak than take any step that would make people think later that you have dumped her. That means anything that may make observers think you are in a relationship already when you are not, they consider it problematic, because when you both stop talking, it may project in people’s minds that you have broken up and dumped her.
30. If you ask her the kind of guy she likes to be with, she will describe some things about you
Conversations can get deeper than planned sometimes. You are in the talking mood, then you pop the alluring question, what do you want in a man? Usually, if she likes you, this question this an opportunity for her to suggest some attributes that she wants you to develop in yourself. For example, maybe she wants you to build your biceps and six-packs, or she wants you to man up and tell her how you feel about her straight away. She would include those in the description of the ideal guy for her. But also, she will include those features you already have, as though she is describing you while adding some modifications you can make to make on yourself.
The next thing that will happen, is that she will ask you about the kind of girl you like too if she has not already asked. If you really like her, that is your own chance to describe her perfectly. If there is some chemistry already, telling her she is the one you will like to spend the rest of your life with at that point could win as the best pickup line of the century.
Some Important Points You Need To Note
Almost all girls would try to hide their feelings at some point in their life.
These signs are not absolute indications that you should proceed with the chase or not. Weigh other factors before deciding to make her your girlfriend or not.
When a girl feels hurt that you are not giving her attention, don’t try to make her to like you. Instead, give her some more distance until the time is right.
Don’t give up chasing her simply because you found a few turn-offs above. It’s still best to follow your heart and think about the possibilities.
If you ever asked a girl out and she says “no”, that could mean a lot but it could also mean that she is just trying to hide her feelings from you. Chase a little more before you cut the chase.
I hope that I have written a rich guide on how to know if a girl likes you but is trying not to show it. I also hope you enjoyed it. The following video can also be helpful.
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