Are you noticing funny behaviours from a girl you are interested in? Is she playing games with your head? That is a fairly common experience most guys can relate to, but here you will learn about the signs that she likes you but is only trying to hide it.
I had my own experience with a girl who liked me (I later found out) but was messing with my head. Honestly, I liked her too but I didn’t understand why she was putting up those attitudes if she liked me too. Anyways, girls have their reasons why they pretend not to care when deep down they are crushing hard for a guy.
Some of the reasons why a girl would hide her feelings until the guy approaches include; fear of losing value, they enjoy the chase and it makes them feel special, and the belief that a real man should put in the work to get the girl they like.
While all these reasons are valid, sometimes the whole desire to be deciphered as if the girl were some mysterious puzzle seems very unnecessary. However, I have discovered some special signs to know if a girl likes you but is only trying not to show it.
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30 signs a girl likes you but is trying not to show it
Human beings are emotional beings but our emotions get expressed by our facial expressions, actions, and gestures. No matter how much a girl who likes you tries to hide her feelings, there are signs that can help you tell.
While these signs are not fool-proofs that a girl likes you but is only hiding it, they are tell-tale signs that she secretly likes you indeed.
1. She tries to get close to your friends
If you notice that she is trying to get close to your friends, it is a sign that she wants to be closer to you. Not just being close to your friends but you would consistently catch her staring at you, sometimes with a soft smile on her face.
She may not be able to control this action, such that even when she is with her friends, she would want them to stay somewhere close to you.
2. She feels happy when talking with you
Happiness is an emotion that comes from within, and when you see that she feels happy when she is having a conversation with you, it is a sign that she likes you even if she consciously tries to hide it.
You could perceive her happiness in the way she smiles, laughs or giggles at your words, particularly in the way she tries to prolong the conversation.
3. She wants to know more about you
When a girl likes you, she makes conscious efforts to know more about you. This explains why she tries to get close to you. She wants to know what makes you happy and what makes you unhappy.
This is basically what anyone would do if they are interested in someone, but in a case where a girl is hiding her feelings for you, you can still her subtly observing you or openly talking about your interests.
4. She engages with your interests
When a girl likes you, she engages with your interests and passions even when she denies it. For example, if you love football and you find out that she is suddenly beginning to develop an interest in football, then you might be right about her feelings for you.
5. She sometimes tries to make you feel jealous
When a girl likes you, she tries to make you feel jealous to see your reaction. She is trying to see if you like her too, and it is perfectly normal.
She might get friendly with another guy in your presence and be watching your reactions. Sometimes, she might smile at you and say hi to you from a distance. As a rule, whenever a girl is with another guy and yet, she is still trying to connect with you, she likes you until proven otherwise.
6. She might get seductive
There are many ways a girl can get seductive when she likes you. And while I won’t go the extremes, a simple way and common way is how she touches you. There are other ways a girl can seduce you if she is interested in you.
The purpose of these seductions is to get you more emotionally interested in her. This is the time most men begin to develop more feelings for the girl because it typically shows that she is interested in them.
7. She may draw closer when you are avoiding her
For several reasons, you might not be ready for a relationship with her, or you might think you don’t like her enough. Either of these can make you avoid her deliberately even though you like some things about her.
At the point when she notices that you are avoiding her if she tries to draw closer to you, know that she has had feelings for you all along.
At some point, you might be feeling tired of trying to get her while she plays her games. One clear sign that she likes you but only pretending is when you notice her drawing close when you are about to retreat.
The hassles of finding out a girl that is interested in someone is far too much than one would imagine. A girl that likes you but doesn’t want to be the first to admit it can put up unnecessary attitudes like shunning you, snubbing you, or other attitudes to make you chase after her.
These attitudes can be annoying, honestly, but it is up to you to decide if you want to continue to chase her or not. But remember, some efforts are just not worth it.
9. She invites you out sometimes
Whether casually or officially, if a girl summons the courage to invite you for an outing, party, or any get-together, chances are that she likes you and there is no other way she can tell you.
10. She touches you at any given opportunity
That explains how she feels about you. Whether you are sitting on the long bench, or sharing a sit close to her, you can tell how she freely allows her body to get in contact with hers. This is a sign that she likes you deeply even though she is afraid to admit it.
11. She is not afraid to get you drunk or get drunk herself
You may call this desperation but to her, it is an act of revelation. Girls know that alcohol can inhibit people’s consciousness and can make them say or do what they have been afraid to say or do. A girl that likes you would like you to get drunk so that she hears your deep thoughts about her, or so that she can get the courage to tell you how she feels about you.
12. She would spy on you
While you think no one is watching you, a girl that likes you can station her friends to monitor your activity without you knowing. One way or another, she gets information about you because she likes you and would like to know more about you.
13. You would often run into her by accident
Accidents do exist but an author once believed that there are no accidents, but not every time you run into her would be an accident.
She might have been studying places you frequent and might have calculated where you might be at that particular time. And if you like her too, it could just be nature telling you that you are meant for each other, but that’s just by the way.
14. Her best friend acts differently around you
If her best friend’s behaviour changes when she is around you, she might have told her something about you. Her best friend might act in a welcoming or aggressive way depending on what she told her about you.
Whatever the case may be, once you see that her friend’s behaviour changes when she is around you either in the girl’s presence or not, it is a sign that she likes you but is trying not to show it. She already told her friend about you.
15. She might show annoyance
When a girl likes you and you are not taking the right moves she wants you to take, this can be very frustrating to her. She might not be able to cover up her dissatisfaction and would make you openly see that she is feeling helpless without you.
16. She will try to be around you are hurt
Anyone can pretend not to care until they see that you are hurt. That is when they can’t contain themselves anymore without showing how much they care.
Whenever you are hurt or when someone is acting against you, she would show her support for you if she is genuinely interested in you. If she doesn’t, you can be assured that she does not like you or does not have genuine feelings towards you.
17. She expects your support when she is hurt/unwell
It might begin as very trivial things like standing up for her in a playful altercation with some other guy. She would stand up for you if it were you so she expects you to do the same when it’s her turn. On a few occasions, she might say it out loud when you fail to support her as she expected.
18. She asks about your family
If a girl is not interested in you or your family, she does not like you even if she is showing some interest in you. Girls are attracted to guys for different reasons. She might be attracted to you because you are good-looking, or have money, but if she does never care to ask about your family, she is not genuinely interested in you.
19. She takes advantage of the time when no one is watching
Maybe she still enjoying the chase, or is just too proud to publicly show that she likes you. But when no one is watching, she would take advantage of that opportunity to express her deep interest in you. She may seize that opportunity to touch or hold you in a way she never did before.
20. She will cheer you on
There is no crime in cheering on a celebrity you like, anyone can. When a girl likes you, first she attends your game if you are in the school team. And when playing, she would cheer you up publicly because she is rooting for you and she wants you to see how much she wants to support you.
21. She has said “I hate you” or “Leave me alone” at least once
Of course, I mean this in a friendly way. It could be in one of those casual conversations you have shared or while you were walking down the corridor together. And from the look on her face, you can easily tell that she means otherwise.
22. She hides her relationship status
Girls who are in a serious relationship with someone they love often find it very easy to tell an interested guy about their relationship status. Girls who are uncertain often hide their relationship status during the initial stages if they see some prospect with the new guy.
If a girl shows signs that she likes you but does not find it easy to reveal if she is single or in a relationship, it is a sign that she likes you but doesn’t want to chase you away because of a relationship they aren’t sure of.
23. Her friends may try to set you both up
What do you expect from them, when she sings your praise to them all day? Her good friends who care about her would make plans to set you both up on a date. Those that are close to you will arrange with you to make a date with her possible, while those that hate you and her would do their best to ruin your budding relationship. Trust me!
24. She is sometimes nice to you
I used “sometimes” because a girl that likes you can behave erratically sometimes. One moment she is extremely nice, other times, she is not. Maybe it’s the influence of her cycle, who knows, but another thing that can make her mood swing towards you is if she thinks you are not putting enough effort to get her.
25. She replies to your messages
You might have heard how girls snub guys on social media because they get overwhelmed by many requests and conversations with other guys who are also interested. But when she likes you, she doesn’t act the same way she acts to the other guys.
If she is busy and unable to attend to your call or messages, she would do that as soon as she is available from work or whatever activity was taking her time.
26. She wants to spend more time with you
This is normal for anyone that likes someone; you want to spend more time with them because it makes you feel good. If you are getting quite close to each other already and she expresses that she would like to spend more time with you, she is madly in love with you even if she says otherwise.
27. She is low-key frustrated with you
After a while of not taking action to make her your significant other, she might begin to get frustrated at you. She might ask you about what your plans her for your relationship/friendship with each other to get an idea of the direction you are willing to take things.
28. She acts normal and real
Girls can pretend when they are with someone they are not comfortable with to avoid being judged unnecessarily. But when a girl acts normal and real around you or makes an effort to be as real as possible, that’s a sign that she likes you even if she doesn’t say more than that. She wants you to know her for who she is because, to her, that’s what love is supposed to be about.
29. Her behaviour changes when you are with other girls
She feels the same way she expects you to feel when she is with other guys. This kind of jealousy makes her act nervously and anxious when you are with another girl, and this is a sign that she likes you.
30. She describes you as her dream man
As the conversations get deeper, there may be an opportunity to tell you how she wants her dream man to be. If she likes you, she would describe your physique, your great attributes, and then other qualities she wants in her man. That way, she is indirectly telling you, you are the one I want.
What to do when unsure if a girl likes you
These signs discussed a girl who likes you but if trying not to show it are speculations at best. To clearly determine if she likes you or not, leave no room for assumptions. And by this, I mean that you are going to have to prepare for a time to ask her out or tell her how you feel.
What to do if she says she doesn’t like you after asking her out
I have learned to stop assuming things when it comes to romantic relationships. When a girl says “no”, take her word for it. Even if she did not mean to say so, it is safer and more respectable to take her word than to doubt her words, or to convince her beyond limits. Even if she did not mean to say “no”, remember what will be will be.
Ladies make advances too when they like you
A girl who likes you may not come out directly to tell you she does but there are signs she may flash at you to make you know her intentions. Thankfully, I have discussed about 30 of those signs in this post.
It is up to you to recognise that she likes you and not to interpret it as just being nice to you. She makes her own advances by making you notice her, giving you an opportunity to talk to her, or helping you get her to yourself.
When you notice any of these signs, you should analyze them carefully to avoid assumptions or misinterpretation, and eventually tell her how you feel if you truly like her.
Final summary points about a girl that likes you
Most girls oftentimes hide their feelings even when they like a guy.
These signs are not absolute reasons to continue the chase or quit, but they can give you a heads-up on what to expect from a relationship with the girl.
A girl that likes you can behave strangely towards you, especially when she thinks you are being too slow in telling her how you feel.
There is no exact time to stop the chase. When unsure, ask her directly if she is interested in you.
If she says “no”, move on. Know when to stop the chase.
I am a medical doctor, a seasoned writer and passionate blogger. Thanks to many years of trials, failure, and near successes. I am the founder of Knowseeker and our content are geared towards enlightening and making you a better and happier audience.