Here are the types of relationship compatibility you need need to know about. Relationship compatibility is important in every relationship because it can determine the dynamics of the relationship – whether the relationship will progress normally or be terminated.
Types of Relationship Compatibility You Should Know
- Physical compatibility
- Social compatibility
- Emotional compatibility
- Intellectual compatibility
- Spiritual compatibility
- Medical compatibility
Physical Compatibility
This refers to physical attractiveness to your partner. It is the kind of compatibility when partners describe that they love each other. It is based on some physical qualities that the partners see in each other.
Physical compatibility takes beauty into consideration, as well as other things that can become attractive to the person.
Social Compatibility
This is the kind of compatibility where the social interests of the partners align. This is usually based on the social status of the partners. For example, you may meet someone who loves an exotic lifestyle in affluence, whereas, you just love to keep it simple.
Finding someone who is socially compatible is important and it must not necessarily be based on the socio-economic (rich or poor) of the individuals, although this plays a very important role.
The element of cultural compatibility could also be included in this class. Races and cultures have pre-defined systems that determine how people live their lives. More importantly, many races are usually opposed to marriage with people from races outside their own.
Emotional Compatibility
Emotional compatibility is all about how well you are able to manage each other’s emotional responses in different conditions. The common reactionary responses often encountered in a relationship are anger, happiness, and withdrawal. Two people that are emotionally compatible should be able to manage the unity when these emotions are being expressed.
For example, a relationship between a lady who expects that her guy must never become angry irrespective of what she does is doomed to fail until she works on that side of her life.
Intellectual Compatibility
Intellectual compatibility is one that involves the easy flowing of ideas and thoughts between the partners in such a way that they could engage in an almost limitless conversation without getting cut off. Intellectual compatibility is often misrepresented to mean the partners should belong to a similar professional group(s), but this is not always the case.
In Intellectual compatibility, Each of the partners respects each other’s intelligence and are satisfied with it. They share their opinions freely without any fear of prejudice and are stimulated by each other’s ideas and/or shared intellectual interests.
A good example is when you meet someone you just fire conversations with as though you were a storyteller in your past life.
Spiritual Compatibility
Spiritual compatibility has to do with the religious or spiritual beliefs of the partner in a relationship or marriage. Religion plays an important role in the way of life of people and marriage is not left out of it. The core beliefs of the individuals have to be accounted for to achieve this type of compatibility.
Spiritual compatibility also means that the partners should share a common vision and passion for life fulfilment. That is, they should both agree on what their life need for them to say that they are fulfilled. The kind of legacy they want to set, the feats they want to achieve, etc, are important for this type of compatibility.
Medical Compatibility
In medical compatibility, the partners are medically certified fit to marry. This is referred to as genetic testing for compatibility where they are tested to ensure that there are no significant medical risks in their coming together, both to themselves and their offsprings in the future.
One of the commonest genetic testing methods is the genotype testing that is done to eliminate the notorious SS gene fusion implicated in sickle-cell disease. This is particularly important in Africa where malaria is closely related to the AS predominance over AA genotypes.
Medical counselling always emphasizes that two people who are going to bear children together must have a combination of genotypes that will not favour the development of the SS genotype. For example, when two AS marry and bear children together, there are chances that SS children will be born.
Everyone wants someone they seem to enjoy talking with. It’s a great feeling when your partner could just understand your thoughts even before you utter them. But it is important to note that apart from the medical compatibility which remains very static and unchanging, the others are adaptable and flexible.
No two individuals are 100% alike no matter how compatible they may be seen to be. Whereas, you previously thought compatibility is the presence of all above factors, you now know better.
Final words
If you ever watched the 1998 romantic comedy, Coming to America, you will see that the problems of compatibility are real. In the movie, Hermione, the charming black lady was groomed from birth to love the prince and everything about him. In which case, she was trained to be compatible with the African prince, Hakeem. But Hakeem was not satisfied with living with someone who acts and thinks like a slave. So he went to the Americas to look for his bride, Lisa. It was really a romantic movie, but one lesson I learnt from it is that compatibility has to be based on grounds of mutual interests and not some pretence or indoctrination.
