Are you making efforts to get a guy’s attention but you don’t know exactly what boys like in a girl? Or maybe you just want to look and feel attractive to guys. Here are a few things to achieve that.
While you may be thinking you need to look highly sophisticated for a guy to like you, you will soon find out that, when it comes to making boys like you, it is the simple things that really count.
There might be a long list of the things guys find appealing in girls, but I will narrow it down to 20 important things you can work on to make any guy extremely interested in you.
20 Things Guys Like In Girls That Appeals To Them
Alright, let’s get right into what boys like in a girl.
1. Good natural looks
I was at work one fateful day when a beautiful young lady walked into the office. Immediately I set my eyes on her, I fell in love with her. This was because she was such a dark-skinned, tall, and beautiful girl with long hair that extended to her back and shoulders.
When it comes to beauty and looks, every guy has a preference. Some may prefer hair, lips, hot legs, your eyes, good front or back sides, and so on. You might not be naturally gifted with all the features but you definitely have a couple of them. And when they say “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”, it means every lady has at least that one endowment that will make a guy like her.
Guys love a natural look. While there are many beautiful accessories and enhancements that can make you bring out more features in your body, guys like it better when you look naturally beautiful. By this, I mean when you focus on bringing out the part of your body you are naturally gifted with.
2. Putting up a cute smile
Guys like a lady who is cheerful because being cheerful makes him believe that you have a clear, peaceful and satisfied heart. Also, smiling makes you look more beautiful in the way it changes the shape of your face.
Smiling also makes a boy think that you like him too; and if there is ever any powerful magic in the world of love, it is meeting a guy who believes you love him as much as he loves you. He loves you even more.
3. Good smell and fragrance
A good smell tells a lot more about you than you would ever imagine. Having a good smell tells the guy that you are taking good care of yourself. Remember, no one will value you if you don’t first value yourself.
Good smell and fragrance also boost your self-confidence – another thing guys like about girls you will also see as you keep reading.
4. Simplicity and submissiveness
While society has tried to create an image of sophistication as the benchmark for attraction, a boy will get attracted to you if you are simple and just being yourself in the way you dress, communicate and interact with other people.
Drawing insights from James Bauer on The Hero Instincts, being simple and submissive is one thing a boy likes to see in a girl that will make them attracted to her.
5. Self-confidence, with humility
Self-confidence is the only measure of your worth, not the expensive cars and jewellery. It shows that no matter where you are currently, you have a sense of what you can become in the near future. And as much as a boy would want to be with someone they are physically attracted to, he also wants to be with someone who does not seem confused about life.
Whereas society may trample on your self-confidence as a young woman, you must uphold it and not let anyone convince you otherwise. Boys will naturally gravitate towards you if you are confident about yourself and what you are capable of.
Of note, self-confidence should not be equated with arrogance or pride. It is an awareness of your inner potential and not allowing what you have or don’t have to get in the way.
Trust me when I say boys like girls that are expressive. Guys want you to be free with them. They like it when you openly hug, stroke or peck them.
Guys learn to be more expressive and flirtatious every day but the secret is, that they also like girls who are expressive as well; and do not wait for them to initiate romance and social interactions each and every time.
Being expressive and playful makes any boy like you deeply. The only precaution you need to take is to create boundaries with those you are not interested in so that you don’t make them fall in love with you when you are only just being attractive.
The first girl I ever liked ticked off this quality. She was beautiful but her intelligence was what made me attached to her. That was a long time ago, and they call these types of people who are attracted to intelligence “sapiosexual”. The truth is every guy likes an intelligent lady; some guys might not prioritize intelligence but some other guys do.
Being intelligent means you are able to make meaning from what he says, you understand concepts when he explains and you can creatively produce something when given the right materials.
Many of these things that appeal to guys, including intelligence, are natural adaptations that will help in the smooth running of the home after you have had kids and small fixes in the home require some level of intelligence.
You don’t have to be a genius to be seen as intelligent, you just have to learn how to logically connect ideas from discussions, conversations and other sources. Highly intelligent men usually prefer a lady who also reasons at their own frequency so that they can be able to engage in conversations together after marriage.
Being intelligent does not mean you have to appear as if you know it all. In fact, that is a big turn-off for most guys. Intelligence can make boys like you when you simply show that you understand things logically and you are creative. Instead of being show-offy, work on really developing your mind and how you think about things.
Loyalty is an important ingredient in every successful relationship and boys look out for it. Loyalty, like most other values, requires time to prove but there are ways you can know how loyal a person can be without having to spend years with them.
Guys are attracted more to a lady who proves loyal to her friends and family than one who is arrogant and treacherous. This he is able to see from the way you relate with those around you.
If for any reason in an arbitrary situation, you are interested in a guy who is torn between two worlds about who to be with; you or another girl, you can easily tilt the balance in your favour if you are the more supportive one.
9. Genuine affection
Ladies fall in love with guys for different reasons. It could be for his looks, his money, or because of his influence in society. But when you fall in love with a guy genuinely because of who he is and how you have come to know him, the love becomes so very strong.
It is not wrong to love a guy because of what they have or what they have to offer but to place a seal of genuineness on it, you need to carefully look into his personality, lifestyle choices, and the rest to be sure you are okay with them before you commit to it. When he finds out that you know him deeply but still want to be with him, he feels the connection too and that makes him like you over all other girls.
It is not so difficult for a guy to test the strength of the love you have for him, and nor does it take so much time to do. One way is by observing how you treat people who are less privileged than you within your immediate environment. Another way is by gradually withdrawing those things that he thinks are attracting you to him.
Feminity is not just about the body features even though those play a part. It is about how you carry yourself, how you behave and other characters about you. For example, it is naturally expected for a woman to be soft and gentle. In this regard, being feminine means you display a soft disposition and behaviour.
Feminity also has to do with your dressing, posture and body movements and these can as well be learnt.
Good manners are another thing that appeals to guys. Your manner of approach, response to polite questions and general composure are very important. Boys like it when you are polite, courteous and gentle in your mannerisms. In contrast, you put them off when you showcase bad manners.
If I give you my five top attributes to look out for in a lady, neatness is going to be one of them. Guys can easily switch to an i-don’t-care mode where they care less about their surrounding while focusing on their work but they definitely love someone who is clean and tidy.
Neatness and tidiness reflect in the way you handle things around you. It reflects in how you dispose of your waste, as well as how you take care of your clothing and personal belongings.
When a guy observes that you are neat, he begins to like you even more.
13. Being industrious
Behind every industrious girl who does what she does diligently is a long line of interested guys who like her. It is like a fixed rule that guys naturally gravitate towards a girl who is not lazy.
Being lazy and heavy-bodied put many guys away from you and it will kill all interests they might have for you.
Who is your best friend? If your partner is not also your best friend, there is a problem. Guys look out for ladies who are accommodating and friendly. Whenever you act discriminatorily by forming cliche or segregating people, a guy would perceive this as a bad omen and can put him off completely.
If you want to be attracted to boys, you have to demonstrate your capability for companionship and this shows easily in the way you treat other people.
At a point, a guy that likes you will stumble into your home or would meet you unexpectedly in your homely look. This is when he would access how homely you are.
Homeliness is a girl’s ability to take care of the home and act as a mother figure. When a man takes you as his wife, he is also taking you as his new mother and mother of his children. Once a man sees that you are homely, it is a big plus in the direction of him getting closer and more attracted to you.
16. A sense of dependence
Self-confidence and independence are very important as far as attractiveness is concerned. But there is something called the Hero Instinct that James Bauer talked about in his book “His Secret Obsession”. I have mentioned this book earlier in this post already and once again, I need to emphasize every man’s need to feel needed.
If you act in a way that may suggest that you will never ever need him, you should be making efforts to change this rather than continually asking why the guy does not like you. It is pride to think that you will never need anybody else in your entire life.
Smartness, in this sense, is a character of being quick and fast-thinking. What do you do when a cup of water spilled on the floor? A smart girl will quickly pick up the cup and mop off the water, while the other girl is busy flapping her hands in shock.
Guys like girls who are smart, girls who are not sluggish with everything they do. It does not mean you need to be too fast but you need to show that you are thinking fast about any situational problem you face on a daily basis.
18. Receiving compliments fondly
“Hey! You look beautiful”, I once told a girl. Guess what she replied. “Yes, I know”. I had to repeat the same statement, “I mean, you look very beautiful” but she remained fixed in her response, “I said, I already knew that”.
Wait a minute! Was that some self-validation or pride? When a guy tells you that you are beautiful, he expects you to put up a nice smile and tell him “thank you”. When you receive a guy’s compliments poorly, it tells him that you are not interested in him and will make him to back off. It’s okay if you really don’t like him but the problem is, another guy whom you might be interested in might perceive it that you are proud and not feminine enough.
19. Being jovial
Another a boy would like in a girl is being jovial or lively. Guys generally get drawn to a jovial and energetic woman. Being jovial makes you to exude an aura of strength, confidence, fun-loving and happiness. That means every moment with you is going to be fun.
Being jovial also mean that you will be expressive as earlier talked about.
20. Being in charge of your life
Are you the girl that always feel depressed or angry because of what people do to you? Being in charge of your life means you are able to control your emotions and reactions to a good extent.
If you always express being hurt by your friends and other people, most guys will find it discomfiting. But if you are always in charge of your life, and you are able to take in a lot before giving in, guys will find you stronger and more attractive.
21. Wisdom about life
Men who are of marriageable age no longer look for girls who are not ready. They are looking for girls who are matured enough to handle the home and go through life together with them.
Maturity is not always about age, same with wisdom about life. They come to those who do their best to understand what life truly entails.
Central ideas related to wisdom about life includes marriage life, sex, money handling, home-keeping, respect for authority, and so on. If a guy sees these in you, he checks another point in your favour.
22. Complementary vibes
Most relationships are based on the principle of complementarity. That means both partners complement or complete each other. If a boy naturally has a calm disposition, he would naturally get attracted to someone who is less calm than him but who will be able to come down when necessary.
On the other hand, if you meet a lively and choleric guy, he’d like you more if you are his complementary opposite. In either case, always give off positive vibes and energies. No one wants a depressed and gloomy girl for anything serious.
23. Making him feel special
Some ways you can make a guy feel special include giving him compliments, respect him, obey what he says over someone else’s, make him feel needed, and so on. The bottomline is whenever you make a guy feel special and important, he gets attracted to you even more and more.
24. Being generous to him
Giving gifts is one important sign of love and interest in someone. If you feel that a guy likes you, giving him gifts will make him see that you like him too. Once again, there is no greater love magic than the coming together of two who love each other without any reservation.
Other Frequently Asked Questions About What Boys Like About Girls
Is it possible to have most of these things and a guy still doesn’t like you?
Yes, it is possible to have most of the appealing things above and a guy still does not like you. There are many things people consider before falling in love with someone. So, don’t fret when that happens, you will surely find someone who likes you genuinely not long from now.
It is also possible for a guy to like you for no specific reason or purpose. He just likes your personality but is not interested in any serious commitment with you.
How to know a guy likes you
There are signs to know if a guy likes you or not and he would not hide them so much. The first thing you will notice is that he will be making efforts to be with you and these can come in various ways.
What do boys like in a girl? Theseis a common question and this article provided a very clear answer to some of the things that guys like in a girl. Most, if not all of these attributes can be acquired. It all depends on your will to develop yourself and your commitment to adorn your body and take care of your natural endowments, whatever it may be.
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