The first time you met, there was excess sexual tension everywhere. You couldn’t stay alone together without something happening. Your boyfriend was so f*cking sexually attracted to you that you could describe him as a ravening wolf always ready to devour at any opportunity, until recently. You started noticing that your boyfriend is gradually becoming less interested in you sexually. But, what could that mean?
Sex is an important aspect of every romantic relationship. However, things start to get rough for either of the partners when the other is not satisfying them well enough in bed. Several reasons can make your boyfriend suddenly become uninterested in you sexually, and if you are noticing that currently, you need to act fast enough before things get even worse.
What Are The Signs That He Is Not Interested In You Sexually Anymore
Just so we are on the same page, here are some of the signs that might have made you think that your boyfriend is not sexually interested in you anymore. If you are not seeing these signs in your boyfriend, I assume you may be wrong to think that is no more interested. Anyone can be wrong too.
- Your boyfriend does not ask for sex anymore
- He does not fall for your seductions anymore.
- He does not get sexually aroused by you.
- He stops visiting you as often as usual.
- He does not hold and touch you the way he used to.
If your boyfriend has been lovey-dovey in the past few times of being together but suddenly starts getting sexually cold towards you, it does not happen out of the blues. If you love him and you are convinced that he loves you too, the first thing you need to do is to identify the specific reason why he has suddenly become uninterested in you sexually. Knowing the right reason will not only help you know how to deal with the problem but also give you understanding that will help you go through this period of “sexual starvation”.
10 Reasons Your Boyfriend In Not Interest In You Sexually Anymore
Your boyfriend’s sudden loss of sexual interest in you can be due to the following reasons;
1. He is stressed from work
One of the primary reasons why a man who loves you suddenly stops giving you sexual attention is if his work has become overwhelmingly stressful and demanding. If you recently finalized your plans to tie the knot soon, your boyfriend could be working extra hard to make enough money for the wedding and life thereafter. When he is stressed from work, he could come back tired and unprepared for any sexual activity.
Stress and thoughts about work can generally affect his sexual interests and libido.
2. He is unhappy with the state of your relationship
One common reason why your boyfriend may become uninterested in sex with you is if there are unresolved disputes or misunderstandings in your relationship. He is not going to pretend that there are no problems when they are staring him in the face. Some of these problems can make him feel unsure of your feelings for him and thus, make him feel sexually uninterested in you.
Another way the relationship can affect him sexually is if he thinks that it is one-sided or he has been the only one doing all the work.
3. He has performance anxiety
Does your partner feel that he pleases you in bed always? If yes, you can easily know how he smiles at you when getting ready to lay with you or shortly after. However, one of the signs that he thinks he is unable to perform adequately is when he does anything to avoid having sex with you even when he previously enjoyed doing so.
4. He doesn’t feel confident about his body
Every guy wants to feel man enough satisfy his partner sexually. And if that inner desire to satisfy you is not met, he begins to avoid you. The thought that he is not able to perform well when he is doing it with you is enough to make him lose sexual interest in you.
He might be doing his best to satisfy you but sometimes his best is not enough to satisfy you. When he feels that you are only having sex with him out of obligation and not that he actually makes you climax, you can expect that he will start losing sexual interest in you until he feels ready to prove himself once again.
5. He feels unwanted or unappreciated
In a previous post, I talked about what hero instinct is. We found that hero instinct is a natural desire for men to feel wanted, needed, and heroic. If you make your boyfriend feel less of a hero, or you don’t appreciate him well enough, he can begin to lose interest in you sexually. If you understand the hero instincts, you can trigger your man’s attention when he is losing interest in you.
6. He has been getting his needs taken care of elsewhere
If you notice that your boyfriend is losing sexual interest in you, it is possible that he is getting his sexual needs taken care of somewhere else. Don’t overthink it yet. Your boyfriend may not be sleeping around with other girls for sexual satisfaction but he might be addicted to masturbation or pornography. These can make him not lose his sexual drive when he is with you.
7. He naturally has a low sex drive
Does it sound surprising to you that some people can have a low sex drive? If you are not new in the relationship, you must have found out if your boyfriend naturally has a low sex drive. If you are sure that his sex drive has been optimal to your needs but his fire recently started quenching towards you, then another reason could be responsible. If a low natural sex drive is the only problem, don’t worry. Both of you can work things out to match each other’s sexual needs.
8. He is depressed
Many mental health problems are triggered by stress or stressful events. If your boyfriend has become reserved lately with mood changes, it is possible that he is depressed. Depression affects many aspects of a man’s life including his sexual performance, desire, and interest. Hence, he has recently become uninterested in you sexually.
9. He has another medical issue that he can’t talk about
Whereas we expect your boyfriend to open up to you about issues concerning his health, it could be that he is secretly dealing with a medical issue that is affecting his sexual desires for you or anyone else. Illnesses generally affect the overall performance of all the body’s organs and systems, including sexual performance.
10. He already got the sex he wanted
Just thinking aloud, what if you were just prey that he needed to hunt? If your supposed boyfriend only wanted to sleep with you and move on with his life, he might start withdrawing from you now that his mission is already accomplished. He will try to overcome your sexual advancements, especially when he feels that you are perceiving him as your boyfriend when he thinks otherwise.
How To Make Your Boyfriend Sexually Interested In You Again
Just because your guy is not interested in you sexually anymore does not mean you cannot get him interested again. If you really love him and want to bring back the passion in your relationship, here are some ways you can make your boyfriend sexually interested in you again.
- Figure out the exact reason why he seems sexually uninterested anymore.
- Discuss your needs and concerns with him.
- Spice things up in the bedroom.
- Address any unresolved conflicts in the relationship.
- Trigger his hero instincts.
- Surprise with a romantic gesture.
- Put more effort into looking more attractive to him.
- Schedule a couple’s meeting with the sex therapist if the problem is low performance or sexual anxiety.
- Encourage him to schedule a visit to the doctor to get his hormones and sexual organs checked.
- Appreciate him more.
- Stay committed to making things work.
- Lastly, after doing your best, know when to take a bow and leave.
Final words
Several reasons can make your boyfriend not to be interested in you sexually as he used to. To be able to solve this problem and get back his attention, you must first know the reasons why he is becoming sexually cold to you so that you can know how exactly to make him interested in you sexually once again.
