Valentine’s day comes and goes every year. Depending on when you see this, it is either Valentine is ahead or we just passed it. But I think I need to do some explaining of what it means to be someone’s Valentine.
Different people have different meanings for what it means to be someone’s Valentine. I don’t know what you think it means too, but we will see these variants in this post and end with what it means in reality when someone, be it a guy or a lady, asks you to be their Valentine.
First, brief history of Valentine’s day.
Historical Perspective of Valentine’s Day
The history of Valentine’s day traces back to the story of the Catholic priest named St. Valentinus who believed in love and defied the decree of Emperor Claudius to abolish marriage for young men in 3rd century Rome. There are different legends trying to explain the origin of Valentine’s day but this is the most commonly accepted.
Emperor Claudius II outlawed marriage for your men because he observed that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families. Wars were still being fought and he needed more valiant men in the army. This decree, in his perspective, would strengthen the army by many folds.
I know you may not have justified the action if you were there, and if that would have been your stand, someone named St Valentinus represented your opinion then when he stood that love must prevail. He considered the decree of Claudius an injustice, thereby continuing to secretly wed young lovers.
Soon, Emperor Claudius found out about St Valentinus and ordered that he be put to death. Since then, people remembered St Valentine on Valentine’s day (February 14) to celebrate love and the ones we love.
Another legend about Valentine’s day describes a story of St Valentine of Terni (a bishop) who helped ancient Roman Christians escape the harsh unjust imprisonment by the Emperor. He was killed the day he was caught attempting to rescue another, and a day was set aside to celebrate him since then.
Permit me to briefly narrate one last legend before I talk about what it means to be someone’s Valentine. Valentine was a young prisoner who fell in love with the jailer’s daughter who visited him when he was in prison. From the first day, the jailer’s daughter continued to visit him and this made him fall in love with her. On the day he was to be executed, Valentine wrote a love letter to her and signed it as “From your Valentine”. This has been narrated as the origin of Valentine’s greetings on cards today.
What does it mean to be someone’s Valentine?
What does it mean when someone asks you to be their Valentine? It is not uncommon to receive a valentine’s greeting card with the popular inscription “Be my Val”. Generally, when someone asks you to be their Valentine, it means they have romantic interests in you and would like to express their affection to you on Valentine’s day.
If you are the one asking someone to be your Valentine, you are interested in them and would like to seize the opportunity of Valentine’s day to show love to them.
For couples who are married or in a serious relationship, it is assumed that their partner is their Valentine. While this is a right assumption, it is not out of place to spend Valentine’s day with a friend or family, particularly if you are currently single or not in a relationship.
What Valentine’s day means for you when you are someone’s Valentine
February 14 every year has been set aside as the day of love for everyone, married, single, or confused. When someone names you their Valentine, be sure to receive at least one kind gesture of love from them. Valentine’s day is a day to exchange give and receive gifts from someone you love, such that, when someone chooses you as their Valentine, they are simply choosing you as the person they would like to show fondness to on that special day.
On the basis of giving and receiving gifts, you may want to ask, “Can I be a Valentine to two or more people”? This may be hard to answer but Elizabeth Mitchel offered a way to juggle between several partners on Valentine’s day. You can receive gifts from different people on Valentine’s day but it is generally accepted that you should say yes to only one Valentine on February 14.
When you receive gifts from your Valentine, give them one in return if you can afford something. If you cannot, receiving their gifts with a cheerful heart and smiles on your face is often enough to make the person’s day. Flowers, food, drink, clothes, cards, books, and just about anything substantial can be used as gifts to your Valentine. Sex can also be a gift for your partner but it is not recommended if you are not in a committed relationship or marriage with your partner.
Will you be my Val: Deep meanings
Are you still confused about what a guy means when he asks you if you will be his Valentine? Asking someone to be your Valentine does not carry the same gravity as asking them to marry you or be your girlfriend but it has some hidden meanings you need to know about.
1. I have liked you. Can we take today out to enjoy ourselves
If they have been crushing on you, asking you out on Valentine’s day could mean they want to enjoy the day with you. It is a great day to have fun with someone you have always loved and it’s totally worth it. Enjoying yourselves can mean different things to different people and the circumstances involved, but being asked to be someone’s Valentine can be a way to enjoy themselves with you anyways.
2. I want you to be my life partner from today
As casual as Valentine’s day feels for some people, it is a life-changing day for others. Valentine’s day is a good day to propose and be proposed to; love is always in the air on Valentine’s day and the atmosphere feels perfect for being asked to be someone’s life partner.
If they have been shy before, Valentine’s day is an opportunity for them to express how they have always felt towards you. “Will you be my Valentine” is often another way of saying “I have been in love with you and I want to commit to a serious romantic relationship with you” and don’t be too surprised if it comes out that way.
3. Give me a chance to have fun with no strings attached
This is a friend-with-benefits kind of affair that can occur if you both are single and just want to have fun together with no strings after Valentine’s day. In this case, it is important to know that they do not have any intentions with you after Valentine’s day and whatever happens ends that day. You need to be prepared to take responsibility for all your actions.
4. I want this friendship to get stronger
Being asked to be someone’s Valentine also shows their interest in growing the relationship they have with you. They want to go out with you and learn more about you. This is usually a starting point for a stronger relationship in the future whether it ends in marriage or not.
How to know the hidden motive behind being asked to be someone’s Valentine?
It is important to identify the hidden motive behind being asked to be someone’s Valentine so that you can prepare adequately for it if you are saying yes to their proposal. If you do not know the deep intent, you could miss out on another great opportunity to find love in your life, or you may end up doing things you will regret after.
To get it right, the following tips will help you know why someone is asking you to be their Valentine.
Declare Your Relationship Status
Sometimes your boyfriend or girlfriend may be out of town on Valentine’s day and might be getting asked by someone else to be their Valentine. Celebrating Valentine’s romantically with someone is not compulsory. You can choose not to have a romantic day if your partner is not in town, after all, celebrating day does not begin and end on Valentine’s day.
It is important to declare your relationship status to someone who is asking you to be their Val. This will give them a perspective of what to expect from the date if it eventually happens.
Ask Specific Questions
If you are single and do not want to waste any more time catching a cruise with several different people, it will be great to get clarity of what they mean when they ask you to be the Valentine. Asking questions like “How do you plan this Valentine’s date to be”, “What happens between us after Valentine”, and “How about your girlfriend”, can give clarity about why they are asking you to be their Valentine.
Final words
Valentine’s day is a day set aside to give and receive love from someone who has a romantic attachment to you. Being someone’s Valentine means they want to show you love on Valentine’s day because they are romantically interested in you. This they will show by giving you gifts or taking you out on a date. You should reciprocate the kind gestures if you can afford to.
There could be deeper meanings to being asked to be someone’s Valentine. Knowing the intentions behind why someone asks you to be their Valentine can prepare you for Valentine’s day and what you expect after the day.
February 14 is globally set aside as the day of love but love does not end on that day. Love does not end with showing romantic gestures to your partner, it goes on to you showing kindness to someone every day.
Happy Valentine!
