Whether or not your man is a one-woman man or not, this post will show you some of the struggles that men have to go through in the quest to stay monogamous. Everyone battles with temptations here and there, but people surmount them by staying committed to their partner.
However, there are some inherent reasons why most men are unable to stick to one woman even after marriage. Some of these reasons are so disappointing because they look quite ridiculous.
Most men who are unable to stick with one woman share one thing in common. They give themselves an excuse to look to other women aside from the one they are in a relationship with.
This post will show you six interesting reasons why one woman is not enough for some men. But before we see them, let’s quickly look at some signs that your man is likely to look outside for other women.
Signs Your Man Is Not a One-Woman Man
The obvious number #1 reason why many men are unable to stick with one woman is their desire for assortment. Unlike women, men pay special attention to good looks and variety. They like to have a taste of different things every now and then.
Your man has a tendency to look out for another woman if he exhibits the following signs:
- He is not afraid to tell you that he could marry another woman.
- He is happy to bring up the discussion about polygamy.
- He might suggest to you that it’s okay to be with someone else.
- He expresses his belief that only one woman cannot satisfy him.
Whether these signs are present or not, men generally have a tendency to not stick with one woman, particularly if the man is not convinced enough to identify as a one-woman man.
Many of these reasons are common to most men, hence I am discussing them here. The aim of this discussion about why your man may be unable to stick to one woman (probably only you) is to enlighten you on what you can do to help him control his urges to become polygamous or polyamorous.
Again, this is not an alibi to let loose as a man, rather it is a form of empowerment to make you know what exactly you are dealing with in your quest to stick with your one and only wife.
Let’s dive in right away.
Reasons most men are unable to stick with one woman
1. Desire for an assortment
Whether you know it or not, men are enthralled by variety. Whether you are the most beautiful woman in the room, most men will still want to try something new and different. This is an innate tendency for most men.
Some men easily accept this natural identity and go on to follow as many women as they can set their eyes on. Other “more responsible” men discipline themselves to be satisfied with their one wife only.
Somewhere in between are those men who try to legalize their polygamy by formally marrying multiple women in a bid to satisfy their desire for assortment and variety.
Variety is the spice of life but some things are not meant to be. Polygamy is not the best order of things. This can be seen from the many disadvantages polygamy has on the individual, family, and society.
2. Urge for more satisfaction
Some men are not easily satisfied with one woman. Sexual satisfaction is not only about the frequency of sex between the partners but also about the quality of the sex, which is, in turn, dependent on a number of factors including the perception of his wife’s love for him and the perception of his own ability to satisfy her.
Men who perceive that their wife does not love him as much anymore end up going out for other women who would show them “more love”. Also, a man who feels he is unable to satisfy his wife in bed also feels frustrated and in need of another woman he can please.
Either of the above can set in as the relationship ages but it is important to stay dedicated to your partner come what may. If there are sexual issues in the relationship, discuss these with your husband/wife to deal with them together before it escalate into something else.
3. Payback for some wrongs
This may sound unbelievable but it is real. Some men lose their resistance against external sexual pressures when they realize that their wife has wronged them emotionally in the past. They act this out not only as a form of gratifying their own needs but by tagging it as a form of payback for what she has done in some time past.
For example, the husband of a woman with a history of promiscuity is more likely to cheat on another woman when he assures himself that, after all, his wife did worse some time back. This is particularly more likely if the man was someone who had better sexual control when he was much younger.
Some of these men who use payback as an excuse to go out with other women do so because they think that it is their turn to enjoy themselves too since the wife already has hers. His resistance against sexual urges for other women reduces as a result.
4. Lack of contentment
Most men who are unable to stick with one woman do so because they are covetous of women. Just like some properties, those men see women as beautiful objects they need to greedily acquire at any given opportunity.
Human wants are insatiable. To some of these men, acquiring more beautiful women makes them feel achieved or satisfied with their lives. This is, however, not a good justification to frolic with as many women as you want.
While our wants are not fully satiable, stay contented with what you have to be able to stick with one woman.
5. Beliefs in polygamy
A man from a cultural or religious background who supports polygamy could be happy to look for more women to marry or have sex with. This is one reason to go after as many women as he can afford.
A long time ago, polygamy was integral to the culture of many African countries but this has changed in recent times on the continent. More cultures are beginning to shed off polygamy and embrace monogamy.
However, a man who wants to enjoy many women could still hold on to this excuse and uphold his historic polygamous background. By accepting polygamy, he validates his reasons to not stick with one woman.
6. Wrong marriage
A wrong marriage is not merely about marrying someone who is problematic, but in marrying someone you are not fully resolved to marry. This is one common reason why some men are not okay with one woman.
Marrying someone you are not comfortable with, either due to pressure to marry, unplanned pregnancy, or other reasons, is one reason why many men leave the marriage or start looking outside it.
Some women who are ready to marry cajole the man to marry even when he is not fully ready to take that step. Sometimes, the man turns back before the actual marriage, but sometimes the man succumbs to the pressure only to begin regretting his actions shortly into the marriage.
Another reason people may marry wrongly is emotional immaturity in being too obsessed with emotions instead of being more careful before making a decision to marry.
How to Make Your Man Stick With You
If you are here to find out reasons why a man could be looking outside for other women other than you, you have seen six of the commonest reasons above. In this section, you will learn how to make your husband stick with you without ever looking out.
Making your husband stick with you requires you to have a preventative approach. In other words, you need to prevent the above reasons or do something about it.
For example, on the desire for assortment, thankfully a woman can easily change her looks with available makeup and dress styles. You can give him a taste of assortment even if you are still the same woman he is married to.
You can also prevent it by first understanding the man you are getting married to before you decide to go ahead with him. A man who believes in polygamy or polyamory would hint at it in one way or another even before you finally get married to him.
If you are able to determine his beliefs on marriage and commitment, and if they conflict with yours, it will be wiser to quit than to proceed in error.
Reasons to stick to one woman
Why should a man stick with one woman when there are many fish in the ocean? This question sounds interesting until you realize that women also have other fish in their ocean.
If you decide to stick with one woman, you will be doing yourself a great good your entire life. Here are some reasons to consider being faithful to one woman for the rest of your life.
1. It helps you to focus your attention and energy
When it comes to emotions, men are not very good at managing multiple partners. Your focus decreases or is shared between your mistresses and this can affect the efficiency of care and love you give to the women.
Dividing your love between two or more women will result in neither of them getting enough of it. When you dedicate your love and attention to one woman, everyone is happy.
2. It makes you more determined to succeed
Sticking to one woman is a sign that you are not ready to jump in and out of relationships. It is also a sign that a man wants to raise responsible children whom he can provide for and take care of.
Marrying multiple women in the name of polygamy makes a man produce seeds he is not able to take care of. Oftentimes, these men relegate the responsibility of childcare to their respective mothers.
Psychologically, sticking to one woman as a one-woman man makes you more determined to succeed, and to take care of your family by yourself.
3. Enhanced cooperation in the family
When your wife and children know that you are the only ones in the family, they are more likely to cooperate with you to succeed together. On the other hand, when they figure out that there is another subset of your family elsewhere, they dissociate entirely from you.
Family cooperation is one of the best means to achieve collective success in the family. Sticking with one woman and her children is one way to achieve that kind of cooperation. It yields efficiency, productivity, growth and progress in the family.
4. There is a stronger bond and love in the family
Sticking to one woman demonstrates your level of commitment to your wife. This gives rise to a stronger bond and love between the couple and the entire family.
How a man can sustain his decision to stick with only one woman
Sticking with one woman is not such a difficult thing. Only men who are struggling with one or more of the above reasons find it hard to do so.
To sustain your decision to stick with only one woman, you need a great deal of self-discipline and determination in addition. A man who is determined that only one woman is enough for him will do his best to fight urges and resist temptations.
Listed here are some ways a man can sustain his desire to be with only one woman he can call his wife.
- Take the firm resolve to stick with your woman at all times.
- Reinforce your commitment by always telling her she is the only one you want.
- Discuss your challenges with her, both in and outside the home with other women.
- Resist the desire to pay back, as discussed earlier.
- Deliberately give her a rating that is higher than every other woman out there.
- Make her feel special always. That will make her love you more, and this creates a continuous cycle of love for each other.
- Let her know when someone very seductive is trying to have her way with you.
- Think about the problems that could arise if you frolicked with multiple women.
- Always reflect on your firm beliefs in monogamy.
All these tips to sustain your decision to remain monogamous are based on tweaking your own mind to stay content with one woman. It is natural to want to explore many women as a man but these tips will help you put yourself together and become more faithful and morally responsible.
You have seen reasons why men are unable to stick with one woman. You have also seen ways to make your man stick to you and overcome pressures from outside.
Feel free to contribute in the comments section below. Your views and experiences will be much appreciated.